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Adamindful

Its been a couple of years but seems like yesterday.

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Adamindful

This is crazy I'm nervous and feel sick even typing this. I contracted genital herpes from my X and found out after I had signed the papers for the separation I wanted. My hole life changed so much all in a few months. I just couldn't believe that after so few sex partners that my X was to be my last and at 47 I was done. I don't like surprises and have almost never used my computer so all this is new. I just had a major operation and think its time to get over the poor me thing. I think that's what has been holding me back from trying all things new. I really didn't know were to turn. I'm shy so I sure didn't want to talk about what I thought was a dirty little secret. I now know that there are a lot of people who have herpes. I've been able to learn more about it from this site and its not my dirty little secret any more. Thank you.

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Mel29

I agree it's great to be spmewhat 'free' and be able to speak to others who can relate. I've had HSV2 for about 5 yrs and unlike you, it was a choice I made after making my partner do a test. I know...I don't think it could get worse than that. He's 16 yrs older than me and the 1st guy I've been with who's so much older but we've been together since and I'm pregnant with my 1st child. I'm so afraid of passing the virus on to the baby even though I haven't had any visible outbreaks over a year now. However, I'm afraid that if I do c-section I'll form keloids as with all my other cuts....

I'm sure after reading this post you'll wonder if I'm for real and continued sleeping with him knowing he had the herpes virus!

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Adamindful

Well this is my second attempt to send this hit something and lost it all. As I was saying, I don't pass judgment on other. I think its good you had a choice. I think you are for real, and its shows. I'm still a romantic at heart through all this and I'm very glad you are both together sorry to hear you got the virus before you had kids. If you can let the doctors worry about this and hound them for answers. We know what happens when we worry.

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Mel29

:-) I don't think you're 'over.' I hope you recover soon from your surgery....like you I've never really opened up to anyone other than my partner and the doctor. I think I'm afraid my family members may be quick to pass judgment. I think I may have written my ;ast post a bit badly...I haven't had the baby as yet. The baby is due this weekend and I'm afraid of passing on HSV2 to her even though I have no visible outbreaks and I'm also afraid of doing a c-sec as every cut I get forms keloids. I know right now is not the best time to worry and I know with my past experience stress and worry brings on the outbreak.

Continue to be strong and think of this as a new chapter in your life with new beginnings.

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Adamindful

I'm new at this and don't think I put the word in the right order. I'm happy for both of you that you are going to have a baby. I'm sorry you both have had all the worry and Oh my god this weekend that's so great. I told my mother just 4 months ago about my having HSV2 and she was great about it, so I hope for you that when the time comes to tell them they support you and don't judge. I thank you and hope everything turns out for the best. It will.

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Mel29

Great to hear you had that support. I didn't end up doing c-sec neither did I tell my family. I went into labour Dec 1st and the delivery went smoothly. After delivery I spoke to the pediatrian and he did examined and re-examined my baby girl to see if there were any signs of the HVS2. He said so far she's fine but we'll do some tests on her next week.

I just want to thank everyone for the support and advise. Baby and I are healthy though I'm having some pain still.

I'm still in awe and enjoying my angel- Arisa Amelia Safira :-)

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Adamindful

I'm so happy for you, what a blessing a baby always is. You have all the time in the world to tell your family if you ever choose to. You just enjoy your little angel. Great name. Feel better soon.

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