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ihatehim22

thankfully im not pregnant at this time but im curious about what to do later on. can i have a natural birth or do i have to get a c section

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JBnATL

Thousands of women who have genital herpes give birth daily, many of them through natural delivery. Just alert your doctor to your condition and everything should be ok. The only real danger is if the woman has her primary outbreak while she is pregnant. Click on the link on the right "Having Children" to learn more.

Come to the "Chat Room", there you will find many nice fellow Herpsters who can offer you their support.

Good luck!

JB

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youngsoutherngirl59

can you child end up with the virus if you have a natural birth?

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wastedhousewife

You can absolutely have a natural birth, and most people with hsv do so. Make sure and be honest with your OB about your condition - I have a friend who was put on antivirals for a few weeks before she was due to lessen the chances, and her baby was just fine. No complications at all!

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Cheri

southerngirl, you can have a natural birth as long as you do not have any symptoms at or near the time of delivery. About a month before you are due, the OB will usually do a weekly culture of your genital area, making sure there is not any evidence of an outbreak. Accyclovir is the only antiviral that is considered safe during the use of pregnancy.

IF there are signs of an outbreak, it would not be safe for a mother to deliver vaginally. The infant could contract the virus, causing DIC ( a condition that can cause massive bleeding and clots) blindness, systemic infection, and death just to name a few. It is considered more dangerous to the infant if it is the mother's first genital herpes outbreak at delivery.

Of course, each individual is different and you need to work with your doctor on a personalized plan of care. Hope this helps supplement the information that wasted and JB gave. Have a great day. :)

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foofyforever

i had a natural birth. was put on suppressents the last month. my daughter came out nothing short of perfection =]

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Fairy dust

I have had two vaginal births and all was fine - They don't even give you meds here in the UK as the risks are considered so low if you had the virus before you got pregnant. x

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notsureatall

I gave birth to three children vaginaly. I was just diagnosed in october, however I think I have had this for a while. I had an OB after giving birth naturally to my last child and had not clue why i was shaking and aching. My doctor shrugged it off as doing too much when i was told not to. Which could have been true but now that i have had anotther one, that was an OB. My point is,he is fine. I just wish i would have known to lessen his chances of getting it that much more.

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