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Had sex once, got herpes.FML 18 m (uk)

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i caught herpes when i was 16, i didnt know what it was, it went away before i built up the courage to go to the clinic, and i didnt figure out the outreaks were linked til now, so here i am, i havent been diagnosed and they didnt pick it up when i got tested a few months ago but i can tell from pictures. i have it very mildly i think, i havent had an outbreak in months and months an they only last a few days at most, i dont have alot of the really bad symptoms and i dont take suppressures, so i guess im lucky really cos i have it easy compared...but i still cant help but feel my life is fucked, and worse of all i just got into a relationship with this girl and i love her to absolute bits, we havent even kissed yet thats the crazy thing, cos i dont wanna risk it, i feel like im less than human, like ill never get a chance to be with someone i love.

and if i ever gave her herpes i would never forgive myself, i just wanna curl up in a ball and disappear.

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Hey Jenkins

Your life is not fucked. It's far from it! When I was diagnosed I thought my life was over but I'm starting to try to be positive. It's not life threatening it is just a skin disorder that is an inconvenience at times.

As for your girlfriend by the sounds of it you both feel strongly towards each other. My advice would to find out for sure whether you have it or not but most of all educate yourself there are great websites out there with so much helpful information and then when the time comes to tell your girlfriend you can also educate her.

What doesn't kill you makes you stronger just remember that!


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