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SkiMan

I was just going to delete my account here as I have not been here for a very long time but decided I should 1) Thank the HC folks for providing this forum and 2) Share my story as it is a very positive one.

So, thanks to all who make this site possible. When I was first diagnosed, it provided a nice community of support when I needed it most. Trust me, I know how this thing can make you feel, alone, unworthy of love, etc... So thank you very much HC folks. Much appreciated!

Much like many of you, I found it tough to get back on the horse, so to speak. I wanted dating and sex and all that comes with it but I knew it wouldn't be easy. I decided to go out with someone from here. Didn't work out. Floated around postivesingles for a bit and even dated someone for a year from that site. After that ultimately blew up I decided I was going to live my life normally (and not just date others with H). I knew that it didn't define who I was and that I had a lot to offer someone. I knew that rejection could come but I figured I would only tell those who were H-worthy (worthy of knowing my secret).

I dated some and met several women who I did not consider H-worthy. We'd go out once or twice and there was no spark. Then it happened. I met the most beautiful and wonderful girl in the universe. Sparks flew. After a few weeks of just getting to know each other, I came to that fork in the road. I thought about just letting her go because that would be the easy route. No rejection on my end. She could just go live her life and I would never have to reveal my secret. But I couldn't do it. She was just too perfect for me.

I spent hours upon hours coming up with the perfect talk but it was far from perfect. Eventually, we sat by the fire looking through facts and risks, etc... In the end, she was grateful that I told her and she put her trust in me. That was about 9 months ago and as far as I know I have kept her safe, even though she doesn't worry about it. We accept each other, flaws and all. It is the grandest love I have ever known.

To be honest, I don't even think about the H much anymore, at least not in a negative light. My advice is to never let it define you. If you do then you are allowing it to control your life. In the end, it's a freaking cold sore. A blemish, a rash. That's all. Get to know someone before you share your secrets. Allow them to get to know you. Only then can you really determine whether or not someone is worthy of telling. You also have to expect and feel worthy of greatness and never settle.

Though this is the end of my story on here, hopefully it is really just the beginning. I hope all of you have similar successes. Thank you HC folks for running this forum. You are awesome. Best of luck to all. Remember....it is soooo miniscule in the grand scheme of this thing called life. Don't ever make it more than it is.

Hopefully this finds you well.

Skiman

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Movingslowly

Beautifully put! The fear of infecting another person still remains my biggest challenge is accepting! Enjoy your life with "the one."

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RealisticGal

This is WONDERFUL, SkiMan!

You should not delete your account. Think of all the good you could do by dropping in occasionally to let everyone know how well things are going for you. Newbies, especially, desperately need to be able to read such success stories, and then also touch base with the real live human being living it. It makes it concrete and believable for those reaching out for that crumb of hope.

Think about it. It would be your way of "paying it forward" for the support you received when you joined here.

:wavey:

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Butterfly of the Moment

I enjoyed reading this. I wish you the BEST!

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chooseyourbattles

Ah, Skiman. I remember you from way back when. Thanks for coming on here to say bye. I'm glad things are working out for you, and I wish you the best of luck!

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isitreally

thank you so much for taking the time to share your beautiful and positive story. All the best my friend

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