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GreenEyedGal

I'm not sure if this is the right forum, but I'm just so disheartened. I was diagnosed Nov 17 with hsv-2. Prior to an official diagnosis, I explained my suspicions to the man I had started dating. He informed me that he wasn't going anywhere and we would deal with this together. Since then, we have been intimate, and that sparked an ob. I know from that, he has been exposed, he also knows and it doesn't seem to phase him. I am doing my best to protect him, because the man who gave me this lied to me, and I have to deal with his lies for the rest of my life. I know my now boyfriend is so supportive and understanding, and he's such a blessing in my life, but I can't help but feel dirty, and ashamed. I know this isn't my fault, but I feel so angry that I now have to have conversations like "no not now because..." Or "I'm sorry but we can't right now" etc. I actually broke down crying today because of all of this. I'm just so overwhelmed and I feel so ashamed...when will I stop feeling like this?? Thank you for reading my ramblings

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Bright Side

Hi GreenEyedGal, I know how you feel. I've been dating a guy that's O.K. with the situation, we haven't been intimate because I've had a continuous OB. You aren't alone. I know that doesn't fix anything but it's nice to know you aren't the only one experiencing these roller coaster emotions. PM me if you want to chat.

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Lizi

Hi there,

I was recently diagnosed also...went through and some of it I'm still going through the same feelings you are...a lot of rage towards the man who lied to me and gave it to me...I lost a boyfriend due to it too...so many many emotions...

it takes time...I have found the more I read and educate myself the better I feel...I have confided in some friends who have also helped...and this forum is also a great support

someone else posted this website http://herpeslife.com/ It is so positive and allows you to view herpes from a different perspective...take a look and hopefully it will help

just remember you are not alone :)

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Fully Qualified Survivor

You poor soul. You'll be ok. Your man has decided that you are worth everything. If he thinks so highly of you then perhaps you should try to revaluate your sense of worth?. I stuck with the woman who gave me herpes, we even married. It didn't last but that was nothing to do with herpes, probably more my failings as a husband. The two of us managed to produce an amazing little girl. She's 24 now and a beautiful young woman. She alone is worth all the angst of herpes. Your outbreaks will lessen in intensity and frequency until they really will be no more than a minor inconvenience. Good luck.

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