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Doc Holiday

I take the condom off one time and I get burnt. FML!!!!!!!

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Doc Holiday

First time ever having unprotected sex with a woman who I as well as any other man wouldn't for a second suspect that she'd be carrying an std, burns me. She was smart, fresh out of college, had her own, and had an incurable std. Now I'm apart of this stigma that will never go away. The thing that really pisses me off is I come on hear for comfort and have people tell me that hsv is just a simple virus. F*ck it aint'!!!!!! An incurable sexually transmitted disease that can bring you both physical and psychological pain. I as well as any other woman who'd I have the balls to disclose this info with will see me as the plague. A year and a half of this sh*t and I'm still pissed.

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JBnATL

Herpes is just a simple virus. 80% of adults have it in one form or another. The flu virus kills 30,000 people a year, so next to that, this is nothing. You can live a normal life with this, I know, I have. I have dated many women and have NEVER been rejected because of this.

Many people have told me that getting herpes changed their lives for the better. They have reevaluated their lives and start eating better, working out and are more selective in whom they date.

How you perceive this virus will determine how you live with it. If you see it as a plague the women you approach will probably as well. I think of it as nothing and so have the women I have dated.

Good luck!

JB

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in2theblue

I understand how u can be upset... I had all the same emotions... Truth is, I had to slap myself in the face and say listen bitch this wasn't your fault.. Sometimes bad things happen to good people.. U don't have a time machine so stop feeling sorry for yourself. Yes sex is a wonderful part of life but it is not the only part. U need to get off ur ass and live ur life. This virus doesn't define me.. I'm not a f*ckin virus.. If someone wants to judge who I am because of something with the equivalency of a cold sore, they that person isn't worth my time. Now I'm not saying its the best thing that ever happened but seriously ppl with diabetes, obesity, HIV, cancer, Alzheimer's all have something more to worry about. I hope even after a year and a half of "this shit" really doesn't keep u from being urself and living a normal life. Sometimes u have to just have to say "what the f*ck".. There's no changing this.. So why let it ruin ur life?

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SMZ87

I understand you're upset, I was too and I think everyone is when they find out. I still get depressed about it and it's been 2 months since my diagnosis.

But do you realize that saying no one would ever suspect the woman you slept with had an STD because she is "smart, fresh out of college, had her own..." continues the stigma? Women and men with herpes can still be attractive, intelligent, and successful. People with herpes don't look like drug addicts and prostitutes. Herpes affects people of all races, religions, and economic groups. It doesn't discriminate. It's also spreading around college campuses like wildfire. I believe I got it in college despite being an honors student (just goes to show you that intelligence doesn't matter at all when it comes to herpes).

This woman might not have even known she had herpes because even intelligent people don't have the facts about this virus. They think they need to have outbreaks all the time to have it. Did you know 1 in 4 women in the US has herpes? That's how common it is.

Are you 100% sure you got it from this woman? You can get herpes while using a condom and you can have it for years without ever having an outbreak. You can also get it from oral sex.

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kinglouie

Sorry about the bad news However...

But you would have probably gotten it anyhow even if you had worn it. Herpes is a disease of the skin, not of bodily fluids. So if your skin had contact with her skin, you get it. Pretty simple. I suppose that's why so many people are infected with this sneaky little f#cker!!!

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