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Back on the market...not sure what to think

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So, i was diagnosed in Sept of this year..right after that I leaned to a guy friend for support. Shortly after that we realized that we had feelings for each other and started exploring it a bit more and spending more time with each other. We decided to remain friends for now since he says he's not ready to be in a serious relationship with me because if it goes bad then it'll create a lot of problems within our friendship circles..etc. On one hand I understand that..if he isn't ready to fully commit then no I don't want him however, I know he broke up with the last girl because she wouldn't get and STD test and a part of me is wondering if he wants to look around for someone else who doesn't have HSV2. He cares about me a lot and always puts me first..but it's almost like he wants to keep me in his life as a back up plan. So now i'm starting dating again and honestly...i live in a small town and i'm very very nervous about telling people, I don't want it to get around the town that I have this. Oye...Lol I used to only be concerned about dating players.

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I wouldn't jump to any conclusions about your friend just yet. Don't let herpes be at the forefront of all your thinking, he may be telling the truth. Who could blame him for breaking up with a girl for not getting an std test, there are much worse things than herpes. But at the same time, don't let yourself be a backup plan. Go ahead and start dating, if he wants you as more than a back up plan he'll let you know ;) As for your small town, I think where you live should be like your friends. If the people give you a hard time and don't treat you well because you have herpes, maybe its time to find a new place to live.

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I know the feeling.. it's kind of big shot to the face thinking about the dating scene.. I found out I was positive in August, and then I just found out today that I'm single again. I'm hoping I find a way to focus on something or somewhere else and not think about this. I really wish you the best.. This "simple" virus as people call it, isn't so simple as far as our social lives go.

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