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lostNmyownworld

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lostNmyownworld

HI EVERYONE. I WAS JUST DIAGNOSED TODAY. I HAVE QUITE A FEW QUESTIONS FIRST STARTING WITH MY 2 TODDLERS. HOW EASY IS IT TO SPREAD GENITAL HERPES TO MY CHILDREN? CAN THEY GET IT FROM THE TOILET SEAT OR USING THE SAME TOWEL. SO MANY CONCERNS FOR THEM RIGHT NOW. IM ALREADY A YOUNG MOM WITH A DAUGHTER WHO HAS ISSUES AND NOW IM HATING MYSELF FOR THIS. :madd: I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO OR WHERE TO GO FROM HERE. I HAVE NEVER BEEN SO EMOTIONALLY AND PHYSICALLY EXHAUSTED. WILL THIS ALL BE OK? REGRETS TO ONE DRUNKEN NIGHT WITH A GUY I BARELY KNEW, NOW I HAVE THIS LIFELONG THING. SOMEONE PLEASE TELL ME IT WILL BE ALRIGHT?!?!?!?! :(

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MustangGirlx3

Dear, LostNmyOwnWorld

I also got herpes from a drunken one night stand so i could relate to you alot.

the feeling of regret is awful and it makes you feel like your world is coming to an end.

You have to relax and EVERYTHING IS GOING TO BE OKAY. yes, herpes is not curable but its not going to kill you and you have to understand that YOU COULD STILL LIVE YOUR LIFE THE SAME AS BEFORE. I have had herpes for about a year now and when i found out i had it i was extremely depressed and anxious and i couldnt get the feeling of regret out of me for about 2 weeks but then i realized that things could be worse and at least i was going to be okay. I still live my life normally just like i did before and i am HAPPY with my life. Don't ever let this disease be bigger than you, you have to be strong and specially for your too little kids. Herpes is not transmitted through toilets. I share my toilet with my whole family and they do not have it. It also cant be transmitted through a towel but the chances increase if the towel is wet (it is very unlikely tho) something i personally dont do (just to be safe) is share my soap. It cannot be transmitted through soap cause the soap will wash away the virus before it could be passed (i still dont share soap just cause 3 people use my shower). If you have anymore more questions i would be happy to help .

Remember: IT IS GOING TO BE OKAY. YOU WILL STILL LIVE YOUR LIFE NORMALLY. IT IS A CONTROLLABLE PROBLEM. BE STRONG!

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no they cannot get it from a towel or toliet seat. you did not say what type of herpies u have so I give u both answer to this. Your kids cannot get herpies from u. herpies u have to have skin to skin contact with the herpie sore. so they wont get herpies 2 from u as for herpie 1 (mouth] it can pass it to them if u in a ob and kiss them.

IT GOING TO BE ALRIGHT. I know it does not seem like it right now but it will. And dont hate yourself. ok it was a 1 night stand but that did not releive the guy from not telling u before hand. He should of told u and this is his fault not yours. So do not take the blame here.

here is a very good video thatr i recommend u watch

here something i think will really help u

icon1.gif great info must read for every newly diagnosed

i found this on another sight and I am cross posting it here. It great info. Handbook and video too this is great for all newly diagnosed

this is a free online resource for you and your partner if you haven't read it already. Terri Warren keeps it up to date with the latest information. it has all the basic info on genital herpes you need.

If you don't mind paying money, she also wrote a book this year "the good news about the bad news". It really goes into the psychological side of having herpes more than the free handbook does. There is also a free patient counseling video on her site too if your provider didn't already give you the valtrex herpes packet with the dvd in it -

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Photofan

I don't know much about the technical issues as to how it can be passed, but I do know you are still the same mom you were before you got this. You have the same kids, the same love, the same talents and gifts. You will be fine, and this will soon become something more in the back of your mind and forgotten at times as you are busy with your life. Where you are today is not where you will be for the rest of your life.

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Idigapony

I just got my test back with a value of 42.7. I had no idea I was even exposed. The doc. still hasn't called after I have called the office multiple times. I am reading your threads and it just seems like such a shame that so many peolple are living with this.

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