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Well, I just found out about 4 days ago that I have Herpes.... and so does my boyfriend. I am still married trying to get this divorce done with but, my soon to be ex is obsessed with me. He tells me he hates me and I`m a slut... but then he says that he loves me and I am HIS wife I don`t understand it when he was the one cheating on me and him being an alcholic sure didn`t help thats when I decided to get a divorce. We`ve been separated now for about 7 months. My soon to be ex hoped state about 2 1/2 weeks ago and left me with all the bills and my 2 year old daughter which is his child also. I only make about 150$ a week and the morgage payment alone is 645$ . I am struggling. My boyfriend is doing everything he can to help. Not to many people are supportive of my new relationship .. I guess to people it might seem that we have rushed things ... but, we havn`t since we meant we have been completely open and honest. I`ve told my Dad, my Mom and my sister about my new findings...... My boyfriend told my Brother about it because they have gotten pretty close... My mom had to buy my medicine beacuse i couldn`t afford it i have no health insurance and the Valtrex was 130$ . My boyfriend doesn`t have any health insurance either. My dad however got a phone call from my soon to be ex and he told him and thats when i got the drunken phone calls at 4am in the morning Calling me a Herpes Bit*ch

and a Wh*re and all theese other horrible names while my daughter lay sleeping next to me. I`m not sure if i should be mad at my Dad or not for further complicating the situation. Hes also given my soon to be ex the phone number where I stay and verious other information when he knows that I have PPO out and hes made death threats on me and my boyfriend.

I`m not really sure what to do. I just wanted well all I ever wanted was to give my daughter the best darn life I could possibly give her and more and Love again. now that i feel like i em in Love again nobody wants to supprot me or help me. All i get now is I`m sorrys. I`m not sure why I`m typing all this or giving out all this information... But, I`ve been reading on this bullentin board and I thought what the heck it seemed like a good way to get comfortable in my new skin and make some new friends with good advice.

Thanks alot for reading or veiwing my bulletin vent or whatever you want to call it -Hope-

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Wow Hope... what a lot to go through!

I'm sorry but it wasn't your Dad's place to tell your ex. You could have handled that yourself especially if there was any chance he was a carrier and could possibly pass it on. If not then he didn't have any reason to be told.

Your dad reminds me of my dad who I just told about myself this morning. If my dad was to take it upon himself to reveal my personal information then I would take it upon myself to not talk to him anymore.

This is something serious to those who have it. And it's already hard to deal with. The last thing I would need in my life is walking around and feel like others are looking down upon me. I would not approach a stranger and tell them that I have H. It is none of their business.

People I care about and relationships that I want to pursue I will tell. I don't look at it like it's a big deal or anything but I know how cruel people can be and I choose not to be subjected to that. And I hope that my dad chooses the same thing.

Either way I hope everything works out. I'm sure you are under a lot of stress. Feel free to msg me anytime.

Email = lyrical.soul@hotmail.com

Take care!

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