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I met this wonderful person and we hit it off immediately. We talked often and shared everything...or so I thought. After about 3 months of a hot pursuit we had sex - unprotected (I know, I know that was not smart). We both had an amazing time with each other and seem to be headed in the right direction until she broke down one day and told me that she has herpes. I felt betrayed, powerless and manipulated. She said that she didn't have an out break at the time we had sex and that I will be fine, but after reading about assym. shedding I got very nervous. I'm negative and still have feeling for this woman. It was difficult for her to tell me as she feared rejection. Her outbreaks occur on her butt and I read one article that said shedding doesn't happen from fatty areas like the butt. Is that true? She has offered to cover the area so that there is no skin to skin contact. Would that help? If I decided to continue seeing her how do I protect myself against getting this virus?


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Butterfly of the Moment

Hello. I'm sorry that she didn't disclose before you had sexual contact. I know she was scared. I'm sure you feel a little betrayed. As long as you do some research and you both strive to protect yourselves and each other, the chances of getting this virus from her will be minimal. You can have outbreaks on your skin on the butt, but that's probably not the only place she gets it...most likely it's genital. It's a very very common virus which you may already have if you haven't been tested you should. Please check this link out it really broke it down for me okay :)http://www.hsvblog.org/herpes-simplex-virus-hsv-101/

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