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Pseudopure

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Good evening! I've had genital herpes for about 5 years. I joined this site because as I get older (I'm in my mid 20's) I'm realizing the impact of having this disease since it's altered my dating life. I'm in college and have been dumped several times for what I have but always try to remain honest and up front in relationships. I'm not interested in dating online, however none of my friends in my social circle are aware of my "condition" so I am seeking out new ways of communicating about this very real facet of my life and myself via the internet. It's a sad world that we can't openly admit and talk freely about having herpes. Many of us didn't get it from thoughtless, frivolous sex. For many of us having it is "undeserved." What infuriates me is that someone can get impregnated, start the development of a human being and for a one time fee be responsibility-free for the rest of their lives. What about us? What about the people who contract a virus which is much more less intense than creating a human life and are condemned from society as a whole because judgmental people can't break past barriers and ignorance? Aside from that, if what statistics say are true concerning that 45 per cent of the population is carrying Herpes, that means a portion of those whom point fingers in disgust are one of us. These stereotypes have nothing to do with Herpes, but with something more serious; a lack of love and acceptance for a neighbor despite a nuance of difference.

I really hope a public figure (Liza Minelli or whoever) can come out and talk about having this. That's the only way society is going to start accepting the truth about herpes/std's and allowing it as an integrated part of today's living and perhaps propel science to formulate a cure for this virus. However they probably make too much money off of steady perpetual customers like us LOL.

Well happy Saturday night!

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i agree, i only way I hear herpes spoken about usually is in a joking manner about some 'whore' who "probably has herpes haha" etc it really hurts when i hear that. I admire your confidence to be so open to pople about it

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There are also dating sites where you can find people that have the virus or are willing to date someone who does. you might want to check them out (see the links section below) I know there is one that is completely free however they require you to post alot of your personal info which some people don't want to do however it will keep away the buttheads.

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