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Hey folks!! I just wanted to post my positive experience with dating and having herpes so that people could get a positive outlook on having it.

First of all I contracted it about 5 years ago. I'm almost 24. I've never dated anyone with it. In the 5 years I've carried this disease I've dated (not slept with) several guys. 5 of which new I had it. Out of the 5 only two dumped me for it. This last guy didn't really dump me for herpes. Had I been more into him (I told him I wasn't 100% into him he's a little too into Starwars, LOL) I genuinely think he would've gotten it for me. So we can go ahead and count that as 1 out of 5 who dumped me because of Herpes. The one who dumped me was a weightlifting guitarist in a metal band who smoked a lot of pot, loved football, and frequented places like HOOTERS. A real "T" and "A" lover. He was pretty dumb (which was annoying) but I justified it with his looks. HOWEVER by the judge of this guy's character you could tell a mile away that his shallow tendencies didn't harvest personal sacrifice. Even if the girl of his dreams had it he wouldn't go for her. But I dated him anyway and it was a shortlived fling since he dumped me after I told him I had it. But there are people out there who do have depth and will go for you. Like I said, I've only dated guys who haven't had it and most of them were willing to go the extra mile. That's what you want in someone, to know that they'll do ANYTHING to be with you. So, keep your hopes up!! More people have it than we think!! Remember, 1 in 4 women have it and 1 in 5 men!! That means our friends that we're too scared to talk to about H probably have it too!

Believe me when I like a guy and I tell him I have it I never feel more connected to life and myself b/c those moments explode with energy, excitement, nervous-ness, anticipation, but also with a huge sense of fufilling responsibility which is very maturing. Most guys are impressed with the courage it takes to say something like that before getting too involved and usually congratulate you on your honesty.

So in the words of Lady Sovereign, if you love me Thank You and if you hate me, F*ck You!

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Your great. I love your positivity, I hope to think that way later on when I want to date again.

Starwars...lol ! Poor guy, his whole life probably revolved around waiting for new movies to come out.

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