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Hey everyone,

Well, I got my test results back and I was positive for H1 and H2. I found out while I was at work (I live about an hour from where I work) and I cried the whole drive home. I can't believe I'm now a statistic. I think I'm still in shock. I talked to the one I have recently been with and thank god he is neg for everything. I just hope he stays that way. I have no idea how I got it because I was tested and came out neg for everything about three months ago. My doc said it could have been a false neg or I could have gotten it since then. No one I have been with had had any symptoms so I am assuming whomever I got it from didn't know. I am not mad at anyone other than myself.

I guess the good news is I took Valtrex during the breakout and it worked great in gettting rid of it fast. I still have some tingling but it's not painful. I am going to try supressive therapy with it and hope it continues to work well for me.

I am trying not to stay depressed but to be honest it is hard to not just spend the whole weekend on the couch curled up with the computer and TV. I am hoping to get past this soon, but I guess it just takes time.

Anyway, just wanted to share my results. Thanks for listening.

Lookin4Sun

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I felt exactly the same as you when I got my results. All I wanted to do was sit around, cry, do nothing and then cry some more. And to be honest I was very sad for quite a while, and still have my times when I'm down in the dumps about it.

You will get past this. You're right, it just takes time. Give yourself the time to think things over and accept it, and then start to move on. It gets easier as time goes on.

Thank you for sharing with us. I know that I appreciate it. :D

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I totally understand how you feel...

I was diagnosed back in 1983. I was careful when it came to vaginal intercourse but I didn't know a person could get genital herpes orally. I found out differently the hard way. This might sound insensitive but at least now there are a lot more people with the virus and it doesn't quite carry the stigma it used to. The one bit of advice I want to give to you is don't make decisions concerning your relationships based on you having herpes. I was dating this one girl before I contracted herpes. We broke up when I moved back to my hometown to go back to college. We still stayed in touch even though we had major differences. Ironically we both contracted herpes from other people during our time apart. When she told me of her infection during one of our telephone conversations it was like we HAD to be together because no one else would want us. I moved back to where she lived and we got married. Eighteen painful years later we got divorced. The only reason we got married was the fact that we both had herpes. Fortuneately we are friends now but the fact remains the disease altered the course of my life. Don't let it do that to you. Keep your head up because you are not alone. ((HUGS))

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Thanks for the advise. I do think people run the risk of staying with people for the wrong reasons in this situation. Funny you mentioned that because that was a concern of the guy I have been off and on dating. About a week before I found out I had H, he and I were talking and I had expressed my interest in wanting to date more seriously. He happens to be okay with the fact that I have H, but also made the same comment to me about not wanting to date him just because of his outlook on H. He and I have many other issues at the moment and I don't know what will happen with us. I do know however that I wouldn't settle for someone I didn't really want to be with just because they are okay with me having herpes. It is tempting because is seems safe or like you said as if you "have" to be together now. But I also know that there are other people who are going to have the same open outlook as he does. Things might be a little more difficult from now on, but I know I wouldn't settle despite this situation. I think you give good advise and it is a good thing to mention.

Thanks again,

Lookin4Sun

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I found out I had H one month into a relationship 9 years ago.We were married 3 years ago but have recently separated. I feel I stayed because I did not think anyone else would want me. Now im wondering if ill be alone forever and I fear like most people do growing old alone. I dont feel that it is something I can confied in many people with so I cant see myself telling any man about my situation

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