If she gets cold sores, then she has herpes as well.
I get that society has differing levels of the need to disclose for HSV1 and 2, but they are the same virus, just different location of preference. So when she told you she had cold sores (HSV1) it would have been a good time for you to disclose that you possibly have herpes (undiagnosed) in the genital region.
If indeed you do have HSV2, then yes there is some evidence that an existing HSV1 infection will provide some protection from contracting HSV2.
But without proper diagnosis, you are just guessing at which strain you have.
It seems like you feel there is a greater obligation on you to disclose your possible herpes because it may be HSV2 than there is to disclose HSV1. But they are both the same virus. And even though society has labelled HSV2 as the bad herpes and HSV1 as the good herpes because of their site of preference, they are both the same thing.
I've been having itching with a small lump for a month. It does not look like it's pus filled. I don't have no pain,fever. Just the itchy discomfort. The itching is not intense. At times it itches a lot and other time It doesn't itch. If I scratch I could see a little blood. I when to my gyn and she said that it might be herpes or ezcema. She said that the skin looks like I have scratch a lot. I have seen picture of herpes online and it looks nothing like what I have. The doctor took swabs fron the lump and also I got a blood test. I'm just waiting for the results. I've been in a monogamous marriage for over 20 years. the doctor told me that it's possible to have the virus dormant for many years. I was in shock to hear that. Up to now I didn't know nothing about herpes. I would appreciate any input. Thanks
@finding my way I wouldn't talk about probabilities too much - disclosure is just about honesty so just focus on your experience, how much you love her, and how much you want to protect her. She can do whatever research she wants..
Also, I come from the oral HSV-1 camp (cold sores) and so have a slightly different perspective here...Frankly, as someone with oral HSV-1, genital HSV-1 for me is probably just a matter of time considering I want a relationship with oral sex, kissing and vaginal sex - you can see how genital transmission would be seemingly inevitable.
There are a couple of points:
1) Your lady is likewise putting you at risk as you don't have oral hsv. I say this to make it a little more even - not that it's a contest, and not that either of you want to harm the other
2) You have never confirmed that you have HSV-2... You may both have HSV-1...
ABOVE ALL ELSE, love conquers all and you will both be fine.
Are you sure that there is no fungal infection going on at the same time too?
Aloe vera will help to soothe.
Can you get Tea Tree Oil where you are? I haven't used it personally because mine responds to Valtrex very quickly, but a lot of people seem to swear by Tea Tree Oil and it's anti viral properties.