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Ok...ummm...I just found out yesterday from my obgyn that I had contracted herpes type 2...I actually kinda knew that's what it was b/c throughout this past week I've been comparing my symptoms to the ones listed on the "herpes-coldsores" website. The night before when I realized that there was a good chance I had it, I began crying and pretty much didn't stop until I got home from seeing the doctor the next day...She wrote me prescriptions for Valtrex and Zovirax which I haven't gotten filled b/c I don't know if I'll have enough $$ to pay for both...I lost my appetite, which is scary b/c I eat like 3-5 times a day...I don't have enough $$ to pay off my credit card bill...I'm too scared to tell my parents for fear of what they will say, think, do...my mother has chronic osteo-arthritis, so I figure that she has enough on her plate...the guy that I believe I contracted it from wouldn't answer his phone when I called him to tell him, so I just left a voice message...As much as I loved and cared for him, I'm not even mad at him...I'm so caught up in myself right now, that it's hard for me to think of anyone else...most of all...I'm scared...I'm scared of that rejection...I'm 21 and even though I haven't had any proposals, I've been dreaming about what my wedding would be like...after I found out, all my dreams of marriage and a family went right out the window...I want to cry again, but crying only seems to make the sores hurt even more...

I just needed to get a few things off my chest...thanks for reading

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Hang on in there. My ex-girlfriend has genital herpes. After we broke up, she got married and had some great kids. So there were at least two people (me and the, grrrrr, other guy) out there who looked past the herpes issue.

Is that Jersey in Europe?

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The best thing you can do during the initial stage of finding out you have it is to just go about your daily routine like normal, I know it will be hard but also try and do things to keep you mind off of it. You'll find that it's much easier after a few weeks to handle it. I was just diagnosed around 3 or 4 weeks ago and now I've just learned that it really isn't that big of a deal, people just make it out to be.

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Actually, Gsciar is right......it does seem nearly impossible, but do your normal, daily things.....it does help.

i found out I had herpes AT WORK!!!!!!! :evil: They called me at work and told me over the phone. I remember after I hung up just sitting there , feeling empty inside. One of my gal pals walked by my office, poked her head in to joke around with me....(I am kinda the big jokester in the office) and she noticed my responsive was less than cheerful.

I made myself snap out of it, and just went about my daily routine. In the back of my head, I remember the word HERPES was pulsating over and over.....

I went home and CRIED so hard. Called my ex, yelled at him. (he knew he had it and lied about it.) Went to bed.

Woke up the next day and said FUCK IT! I didn't let it bother me.

I told my best friend, and my sister, and a guy friend who I had been intimate with (prior to contracting herpes.....he was a "friend with benefits...ahem!) and all of them were supportive.

It seems tough at first, but then you will learn ways to keep yourself STRONG and healthy and fight off this virus.

Let yourself go through a day or two of "mourning".....I think this is important to get it out of your system.....THEN....force yourself to snap out of it. And trust me, there will be up days and down days (the down days are usually during an outbreak!) but you will be fine. And you will find a person who will love you and want to do the "marriage" thing! :D

Good luck to you and I hope you feel better. Relax and enjoy the weekend.

ps. as for the meds, I know how you feel, I am on a tight income, and I couldn't affford them, if I took them. (I don't. ) If you can, try, at least for this initial outbreak. Studies show that if you get an antiviral in your system early on, it can help with subsequent outbreaks later on!

Good luck1

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