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should i mention getting tested for herpes again to my boyfriend? we went through a tough time a few months ago when he told me he had a rash on his genitals--he tried getting tested after that but then the rash went away and the doc. couldn't see anything and told him to come back in 12 weeks. I feel weird about bringing it up again because it really upset me that he might have herpes when he first told me and I almsot broke up with him about it. WE have never had sex of any kind with each other and we don't plan to unless we ever get married, but I feel that whether or not we have sex he should know whether or not he has herpes at all and I should definetly know as well.

I don't know how to bring up the subject again without making him feel like i'm on him about getting tested...if it was the other way around i think i would feel ashamed if my partner brought it up again for me to get tested, but i think it's really important for both of us to know...and it surprises me (and bothers me) that he hasn't said anything about getting tested...we were both there when the doc. told us how long to wait until he was to get tested agian--i labeled it on my calender...and the 12 weeks are already up...maybe herepes simplex II won't affect us if we aren't going to be sexually intimate with each other, but what about if he has herepes I in his mouth and he can pass it on to me by just kissing? Then that would definetly affect me now and I don't want any std especially if I'm not having sex with anyone--why should i just sit back and not ask any questions about his sexual history if it's going to affect me? I don't know how to bring this up to him without making him angry and having him withdraw from me or...I don't know..any help would be greatly appreciated and

I had a herpes test done recently and I called my doc. to get the results and I found out that I am positive for herpes I but negative for herpes II. I've never had any sores though on my mouth or lips or arond my mouth: does anyone know why this is? I was wondering if I should tell my parents and boyfriend? I'm paranoid and scared that I might give it to them because I kiss my parents on the cheek and I even kiss the people at my church on the cheek because it's customary to do in my culture and I don't wnat to spread this to them and have them have it too...can I reinfect myself like if I touch my mouth with my hands could I get herpes on my hand? Or if I touch my mouth and then touch my cheeks or my face? I don't wnat to give my boyfriend herpes and he's going to ask me what's wrong when I dodge his kisses or I don't kiss him anymore. What can I do? I don't want to reinfect myself somehwere else or infect my family or boyfriend. The only reason I got the test was because I wanted to make sure I didn't have any stds (because I did have a sexual relationship with my ex and wanted to make sure I was all right) even though my bf and I have never had sex of any kind, which herpes I I know can be transmitted without sexual contact and I don't wnat to give him anything--what can i do???

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