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Hello I am new to this! I have recently been diagnosed with HV2 and I got it from my boyfriend. Well I told my boyfriend when I found out and he was ok with it he said he never had any symptoms but said "I guess we have luggage for life" and was ok with it. Well that was a couple of months ago back in Oct. Here recently we broke up I don't know why he says the reason is he needs to take a break! Whatever that means. But I don't know if we are completely done because this has happened before where he needed space and then ended up coming back. Right now I feel alone and scared because I am afraid that I am never going to be in a relationship because everyone I meet I am going to have to tell them that I have the virus. I am scared to be with anyone else and I want to be with him, but I don't want to wait either. I don't want to fall for someone and have to tell them. What should I do. What does take a break mean?:confused:

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im not going to even start w/ the "break" bull shit.

> plain and simple, forget about him, i know its hard, it might take some time, but someone who puts u threw the ups, and downs of this isnt what u need. u need someone who is going to be there 24-7 for u, and wont "take a break" (which really means, they are single again and anything goes)

and there are tons of people with herpes, that date, and have relationships with people with, and with out herpes.

so dont think that this makes u a outcast. u can, always find someone better then what u have now, that will accept u 100% and not be a total loser.

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So what you are sayin is that pretty much he does not care he has it or about me..cuz he said he cared for me he just is not good under pressure and feels like I pressured him on moving in together and other things:confused: ...does it sound like to you that he may have known and did not care that he gave it to me? Does that sound selfish? What does it mean when he wants to take a break...but then is asking me back? He has done that before and yes I was stupid for taking him back...What do I do about the next person I want to have sex with? What if they say they can't risk getting it and they leave?

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The "taking a break" means basically what waxedwrong said......means he is basically taking a break from having a girlfriend and free to do as he pleases. He may be in shock that he too has this if he did not truly know either...he may have to process it. Or he is freaking out, maybe in denial, and wants to go out and play the field or have sex with other people......maybe he will realize that it is not so simple if he actually gets out of his denial stage (if that is the case...that he is just finding out now too) or maybe he did know he had it a long time ago or previously suspected and thought you just wouldnt get it and is now freaked out that you did because that brings a reality he may have pushed away a long time ago to life again. He could also just be a scum bag and not care he has it and will go out and not tell people....no one can say for sure ya know?possibilites are endless. Bottom line though.....herpes or no herpes the "taking a break" is an easy way out to be single for a while and do as he pleases. Seems to be my experience with the whole "taking a break" thing, as well as for several of my girlfriends. It may be scary to let him go but make it clear that he is free to do as he wants but dont take him back. You deserve better. It is scary to imagine having to face the future without him b/c you both have it and the anxiety about disclosing isn't there....however, are you more sad that he is leaving you or that he is leaving you and you will be alone with herpes? because if it is more based on fear of being alone then it is good he is leaving because you need to become stronger and not rely on him because he is comforting to you and "safe" because he is infected and knows you are. Ya know what I mean?

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