Scared, Please Help

[clueless]

I was just diagnosed this week. I have 1&2, I never had a breakout I found out through a routine check up. Please help me out, I have questions.

1. Will I be able to ever kiss again.

2. I don't have break outs will blisters anyway, nothing I noticed I can I avoid spreading it to someone else? I will use a condom, but from what I read it can be passed through skin.

3. I'm currently single, is there ever a chance I will get in a relationship.

Please give me some help. :confused:

[WaxedWrong]

1) yes, just not when u have the coldsore.

2) its best just to not haves sex when having a outbreak, cause yes> the condom wont protect

3) complety possible

[Jen T.]

From what I understand, you can spread herpes through sex even if you are not currently experiencing an outbreak because of something called "shedding".

I don't know much about HSV-1 because I only have HSV-2. I DO know that a HUGE amount of people have HSV-1. If you have ever had a cold sore, you are HSV-1 positive.

I don't know if there is any way to have "safe" sex, in that, you won't risk transmission to your partner. I don't think there is.

There is certainly an excellent chance of having a relationship in the future with an understanding, mature person. Casual relationships may be a little more difficult though. But we all want to be with a mature understanding person anyway so you may just save yourself some sucky relationship experiences as a result of this.

I know several people that have this and are married and/or in relationships.

And in at least a few cases, the significant other was not infected at the onset of the relationship.

There is no need to think that your future is bleak.

Get all the info. you can, talk to us here and work on acceptance.

Herpes is just a part of who I am now, that's the way I see it. And there are far worse things that's for sure!

Hang in there!

[nimil]

I am surprised your doctor did not explain these things to you. I would call and ask your questions!!

yes you can kiss again, just be extra careful not to when occuring!!!

condoms may not always cover those areas! and not smart...just wait!! H it is passed from the blister to an opening in the skin. you can not only pass to others but even to yourself. like if you touch it and then touch a cut on your arm, voila, now you have it on your arm. there are some instances where "shedding" occurs as Jen mentioned, but it is my understanding that shedding is when people who have it don't know they have it, because it is mild, and pass it on to others. Once you learn more about you, your outbreaks, you will be able to sense (literally) when an outbreak is coming on; don't have sex, before, during or shortly after. if shedding...not sure what to advise.

of course there is, just not so easy as before...if it ever really is.

[cdngirl]

1) yes you can kiss again HSV-1 is extremely common. just no kissing with sores

2) the disease is passed on via skin-to-skin contact- you HAVE to tell your sexual partner- oral/vaginal- when I got it there was no symptoms and he apparently had never had a breakout! Valtrex will help reduce the chance of spreading. Be thankful you aren't one of us with extemely painful outbreaks

3) it is very difficult- i'm struggling with the relationship thing myself- atleast you will know whoever youa re with isreally with you for the right reasons!