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I found out yesterday that I am infected with Herpes. I never really new much about any kind of STD because I never thought it could happen tome...i know it sounds cliche, but am 27 years old and have only had three sexual partners in my life. I have been with my boyfriend for the past four years and when I got the news yesterday I was so scared to tell him. So many thoughts went through my head, but the reoccuring question that I have been asking myself is WHY ME??????????? I feel so devistated, I fell like I dont't know how to move on from this point, I am so scared that my boyfriend will leave me or even worse that he will never desire me again. He seems to be pretty scared himself, he is going to get checked today, but in the meantime I am so scared that my life will never be the same again. Several times since yesterday I have thought to myself that I would rather much be dead, only because I feel that I will never be able to get through this. I feel so ashamed and embarrassed and the worst part is that I have no idea how I got infected if I have been with the same person for the past four years. I don't get it!!!!!! I am so confused and have no idea how to begin accpting this and coping with it.

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I felt just the same as you when I was diagnosed a couple of weeks ago. It has taken ages for me and my partner to work out what the hell happened.

After tests it turns out my boyfriend has HSV 1 orally and genitally. He has had cold sores since he was a kid and it's likey he gave himself genital herpes. His outbreaks on his penis are so small and unoticable he never realised what they were until I ended up with my first OB on and in my vagina.

I felt angry and dirty too. I was diagnosed first and was so upset. It's all so confusing and isolating, so I want to reassure you that you WILL eventually find your way out into the clear water soon. Some of this will eventually make sense. Keep reading the things you find here on this site, find out what virus you have, and most of all....look after yourself.

Keep communicating openly with your partner, you will work this out between you if you are honest, patient and kind with eachother. It doesnt matter who got it first, gave it to who blah blah blah, what matters is how you deal with it from here on.

The future is bright and the pain WILL go away. xx

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Hello :o) Thanks for replying. Actually since I made my first post things ave gotten somewhat better. At first my boyfriend was extremely scared and confused and decised he needed sometime alone to think about what had happened. At first he was persistant on focusing on how I got it, but I told him it was useless because I could possibly never find out. He since has gotten tested and his results came back negative, but like your boyfriend, I believe he may have had unnoticeble OB in the past and has not realized it. Anyhow, it helped a lot to just finally take it in and kind of accept it rather than making myself go crazy trying to figure out WHY ME. You are compeltely right, it all comes down to how you decide to live your life from this point on......an I have decided to resume my life and live to the fullest because what doesn't kill me can only make me stronger. Since then, my boyfriend is more understanding about it and has decided that he loves me too much to let this get in the way. Now the only thing that we have to overcome is feeling confortable with being intimate again. Thanks so much for replying, I hope you are doing well. HAPPY VALENTINES's DAY, xoxo

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