Is Herpes II necesarily located on the genital area?

[Renee Dumas]

I´ve always had Herpes type 1, I just know because, since I was a kid I had frequently mouth blisters. But like 2 years ago, after dating a guy for a couple of weeks (we had sex), I got two mouth blisters at the same time and it have never happened before (the worst that I´ve ever had), so it seemed very strange to me. But I didn´t ask him if he had genital herpes, he just told me that he got mouth blisters (herpes) too ocasionally. And by the record we used protection (condom).

Now, like two months ago, I had another mouth blister, but it started differently (like a cut at the mouth end “sorry my native language is not english”, and it begun growing and spread partly on the outer cheek, which again it´ve never happened before in my life)... and this happened after just kissing a guy, that by the way I´ve dated before for a long period, more than 6 months ago (without having strange syntoms); so I got really concerned. So I took blood exams for all venereal deseases, and the results were that I had both types of Herpes (I and II). So, now I´m wondering, if I could have Herpes II just on the mouth, or if getting Herpes II necesarily means that you have it on the genital area too?? (Because I have never had any genital symtoms -that I´ve notice-).

Other question is:... If a have the Herpes II on the mouth (did I necesarily got it from oral sex?? I don´t use to do this -not that I haven´t done it ever... Or someone who had it on the mouth could infected me??

Since I got those exams, I´ve been completely depressed, I don´t have the mood to go partying or hanging with my friends anymore. After reading a lot about herpes, I´m just very concerned about infecting someone else for just kissing. How can I meet a guy (true love or what ever), if for kissing I can infect him. When you meet someone you like, you just date like for a week or less and begin kissing, and I think that I won´t meet anyone by telling him since the beginig I have this disease (but I think is my responsability to tell before kissing... isn´t it??).

[BoxofRain]

yes, i feel your worry and fear and obligation to tell before you have contact. It sucks so bad because its like you say : how can you get to know someone well enough to tell them before you even ever kiss them....and if you tell them right away how will they be able to know you enough to feel you are "worth" the risk. It is a tough call. If you say you have always got cold sores, then you have always had HSV1 and im not sure but did you always tell each person before kissing them then? because now it is still a risk just the same and why now do you consider it a worry and didnt before? herpes is herpes and in the mouth as cold sores it can be HSV1 most commonly but HSV2 can be present as cold sores in the mouth as well. Just like HSV1 can be down below too. so did you always tell before? also, maybe your guy had HSV1 in his mouth and HSV2 as well down below and did not know and you got it that way. Its hard to say ya know? sorry Im not much help.... i hope things get better for you. I have HSV2 and i have become like a hermit and never go anywhere....never go out with my friends because im too depressed and its been this way since i got diagnosed a little over a year ago. Its not healthy i know but i cant seem to find enough energy or ounce of happiness in my life since. Its not a good way to live.....feel like im wasting my life but feel i dont want to live it the way it now has to be. sorry to be depressing but i feel so horrible too.

[BoxofRain]

oh forgot to say that it is possible to have it genitally and never have one visible symptom ever.....almost have the cases of it are this way and that is why it is spread so much.

[Renee]

No, it's not. My first outbreak occurred about five inches below where my hip is, towards the outside of my thigh. Previously, I thought herpes only occurred on mucosal tissue.

[Renee Dumas]

yes, i feel your worry and fear and obligation to tell before you have contact. It sucks so bad because its like you say : how can you get to know someone well enough to tell them before you even ever kiss them....and if you tell them right away how will they be able to know you enough to feel you are "worth" the risk. It is a tough call. If you say you have always got cold sores, then you have always had HSV1 and im not sure but did you always tell each person before kissing them then? because now it is still a risk just the same and why now do you consider it a worry and didnt before? herpes is herpes and in the mouth as cold sores it can be HSV1 most commonly but HSV2 can be present as cold sores in the mouth as well. Just like HSV1 can be down below too. so did you always tell before? also, maybe your guy had HSV1 in his mouth and HSV2 as well down below and did not know and you got it that way. Its hard to say ya know? sorry Im not much help.... i hope things get better for you. I have HSV2 and i have become like a hermit and never go anywhere....never go out with my friends because im too depressed and its been this way since i got diagnosed a little over a year ago. Its not healthy i know but i cant seem to find enough energy or ounce of happiness in my life since. Its not a good way to live.....feel like im wasting my life but feel i dont want to live it the way it now has to be. sorry to be depressing but i feel so horrible too.

The thing is that, when I just had (herpes I), I didn't know what it was and how I could infect someone else ( I just always lived with it, and thought some people got cold sores, and some didn´t... So I just didn´t warn people about it. But I did have a couple of boyfriends who didn´t care about kissing me even if I had a cold sore, because they´ve never had one ¨Some people think that is like lack of vitamins¨. In spanish we call them "fuegos" and the exact translation is "fires", nobody refers to it as herpes). Most people don´t know that they can get infected, they just think that if they´ve never have them, they won´t get them. Commonly just the poeple that have suffer from cold sores avoid contact with them, because the know they will imediately get one.

I didn´t even go to the doctor for having a cold sore, because they appear once or twice every 2 years... I don't remember after how much time I got to know cold sores = herpes. And my aunt which is dermatologist just said that EVERYONE have herpes I, but some got the sores, and some didn´t.... so I kind of believed that (didn´t think about it).... But after getting different and strange sores I got worried... and after getting to know I had Herpes II, I began reading... and now I Know that I could have been infecting people without Knowing (from Herpes I)... Obviusly people don´t born with it, so not everyone can have even (herpes I), as my aunt incorrectly said.

So now I that I know more, I wouldn´t be confortable kissing someone without saying... And by the way I told my ex (one who kissed me with cold sores) about my exams, and everything I've read, but I don´t know if his getting the exams or not. (According to me "Can't know for sure" I was with him, just when I had the Herpes I)....

[LadyJay]

I know what you mean. I have dated two guys who have had cold sores (the current one for the past 9 yrs.), and I have NEVER gotten one in my life. I just always thought that some people got them and others were "immune" to them, and that I was the latter. I still to this day have never had one, my exhusband has never had one, none of my children have ever had one, but I remember my mother used to get them occasionally (I was adopted, don't know if that makes a difference or not) and I never thought a thing about it.

I wonder if once you have kissed someone with cold sores...if then you could possibly become a carrier without ever getting the virus?

God Bless,

Jay