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Ever since i heard the doctor say herpes i have obviously been scared. I go to blame my boyfriend and i know it's not his fault because he didn't know. But i can't help it, i've been a total and complete B**** to him and i think about it after and it's like "wow, why did i just do that?" but i figure it's jsut because i'm upset and he's there to blame. i know he would never leave me sometimes he'll cry and say he's sorry for it all and he wishes he would have known , but it's not fair that i keep acting the way i do. And it's like a really understand but i dont know why i do those things. Did anyone else ever experience this? or ahve any suggestions?

Also, question, unrelated to the above information. but this is my first outbreak. The doctor said it was too late for medication, but it keeps getting worse, and now i can barely wallk and sit. there are many more sores and they are now down by my anus. any way to keep them from spreading?! thanks!

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umm its NEVER to late for medication, get back to your doctor and demand some.

and if u treat someone crappy for long enough, they might leave, so i would try and work on your issues... did he give it to you? like are you positive that he did? (he had a post. test result?) and you need to realize your in a great situation- you have someone, right now, that accepts you, and is there for you, and your treating them like shit- millions of people right now would kill for what you have. my advice- keep your mouth shut, think it through, wait a few min- relax, then say something. i know if i said everything i thought of when i was pissed off at my bf, i would be single now

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I agree with waxedwrong but I do think it's natural to be angry. And ok, he didn't know he had it, but at the end of the day it was HIM who gave it to you. But then he didn't know he had it. And so on and so on. You can go round and round in circles. But really he's not the one to feel angry towards. He hasn't deceived you in anyway. It's just a crappy situation which isn't his fault.

I don't know anything about the medication except I do know there IS medication you can take! You're doctor's wrong.

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Thanks, and i've gotten better. i think i realize the more i come to accept the fact that i have it and that's that, the more relaxed i am about it all. I guess it's just like you never expect yourself to get something like this and of course you don't want to blame yourself. But in the end, i was the one who had sex with him. Well i can't talk to my doctor until Monday, i already tried to call. hmm.. hopefully it'll be a little better by then. I've had this now for about a week and a half and i do feel it getting better so maybe it's on it's way to healing? or is it tricking me? haha. but thanks again =]

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