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My name is Chrissy and I am 20 years old. I was diagnosed with herpes in

May 2005, right after Easter..I was dating the 2nd man (Jay)since my son was born and about 2 months into dating is when the herpes showed up and Jay denied giving it to me and sometimes acted like he was afraid me to I guess throw me off, I stupidly did not realize he gave it to me until I had broke up with him which was about 5 months later but he still tried to deny it and claim I gave it to him..

My sons father was in the AF and the only man I dated after him and before Jay is in the Military so no way could I of got it from anyone other then Jay...

I remember the day I found out I had it, the doctor was very ignorant and acted as if she was afraid of me which made me feel very upset and I remember crying for the rest of the day and saying in the car that I just wanted to die. Jay (guy who gave me herpes) is the one that took me to the doctors and I sat in the car crying then when I got home he asked my mom if I could go over to his place since I was so upset, it just makes me sick now looking back at that and thinking of me sitting in the car and being with him crying my eyes out and him knowing he gave it to me and sitting there not telling me the truth and even after we broke up he never admitted to it.

Here it is about 2 years later and I have just got back into the dating scene because I was so afraid of catching something else and I have talked to a few guys but they all turn me down after they find out what I have and it makes me so upset. I wonder if im ever going to get married or even have another child because my doctor said if I have a child it is possible they could get the herpes and because of that I do not want to get pregnant again due to the fear of unfairly giving a innocent child herpes.

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Welcome. Those men who turned you down are obviously superficial, immature, jerks. You don't need those people. There are men out there that will love you even with herpes. Having herpes is a good way of weeding out those types of guys [to think of it positively], Because if someones not going to love you for EVERYTHING you are, than they are not worth it. As for becoming pregnant, there are tons of people who have natural births who have herpes and you can always get a c section. I wouldn't stress out about it. you'll find someone who really loves you.

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Hi, just wanted to tell you that you can have children. My doctor says that it is safest to have a c-section to prevent the risk of spreading it to your child, but my dilemma is you are always suppose to use condoms but how would I be able to get pregnant if I don't have unprotected sex. I am on suppressive therapy and have been for almost a year HELP!!

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