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Hi, Really great to find this forum via the link from the Wikipedia herpes page.

I'm a 40-year old caucasian guy and I live in Phuket, Thailand. I've had herpes since around 2002. I'm not sure exactly when I first got it or who exactly I caught it from because I had a lot of partners around that time. There was one Thai girl I had sex with who did warn me first that she had it but she wasn't really clear about what she had (didn't use the word herpes) and so her warning didn't stop me. It may well have been her, but many of the other girls I slept with at that time were professionals so who knows.

I (except for once or twice) always used condoms during those years but my outbreaks are always on the right side or centre of my scrotum, an area that condoms don't cover.

Before I knew it was herpes I went to a doctor here in Phuket. He was totally bemused by my condition and just told me that I should take better care of my skin. Can you believe that? Especially in a place with as much casual sex as Phuket. Actually I recall he was a gynaecological doctor and not a specialist.

I then posted my symptoms on another general health forum and found out what I really had. So I went to another hospital here for confirmation and the doctor said it was not possible to get herpes on the scrotum. Again, incredible! But he did say go back when I had blisters for a test.

To be honest I've never gone back during the blisters phase because I'm 99% sure what I've got. I probably should one day just to get the piece of paper.

I guess I get fresh outbreaks every 2 or 3 months. Just getting one now and feeling pretty low about it all, which is why I'm here. It's been a very long time since I had sex now and I think this has a lot to do with the herpes.

So I'm here to educate myself as much as possible and basically find a way if and how I can responsibly get a good sex life going again.

cheers!

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