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:???: i have know clue what do any more. i just found out a month ago that i had h. i have tried to deal with it but have decovered that i really have not faced the fact. i am very emotional person since i have found out. i would love to figure thing out, but i have no clue what to do. i am tired of crying and being anry. i have two people in mind who gave this to me, but i am really not sure who gave this to me. i would love some help and support right now. i have been depressed in my life but this time i just can not figure out how to get out of it. some days are good but others are really bad. i would love for my life to be normal. i however realized that is not going to happen. i hate keeoing secerts but this is one thing i dont want any one to know. today is a very hard day for me. i just need some one to talk to.
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Hi ohio23;

I have a few questions for you. Was your herpes diagnosed by a doctor? Are you taking any medications for it? Because sometimes people think they have it, but they don't really. Assuming you did see a doc, it's normal to be depressed at first upon hearing the news.

So...the next thing I'm going to tell you is that your life isn't over. This virus will not keep you from leading a healthy and happy life and someone will fall in love with you (assuming you're single) even though you have herpes. You won't have out breaks all the time...in fact, some people can go years between outbreaks. You will learn how to manage things and get through out breaks and you'll adapt. :)

You should probably speak with the two suspects and let them know what's going on so that they can go get tested. If they knew they had herpes and didn't tell you, that sucks.

I hope you start cheering up soon...

Take care.

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I was diagnosed about two weeks ago and it was pretty hard for a while. Mostly just during the OB i was having. I had a lot of the same feelings as you, but then i thought there's no point in being upset, because it only makes things worse. As hard as it is, try and make things positive. Be thankful you are blessed with a life. I think sometimes we all get worked up over this virus "herpes" and it's pretty dumb. Herpes has always been looked down upon, so when we are diagnosed we feel angry, dirty, and like everyone is going to judge us. If society only knew ITS JUST HERPES, big deal. We probably wouldnt get so upset about it. I think its the fact that everyone always tells you herpes= std, herpes= bad. Okay sorry to ramble on, but feel free to post more, we're all here to help eachother =]

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I understand it's hard. I was diagnosed about a month ago, and still I suffer from the good day/bad day deal. I could be having a really good, on day and all it takes is one herpes joke from someone who has no idea and it can just ruin my entire day and then it's all I can do to not cry hysterically.

But just so you know, it gets a little easier and easier each day. Learn all you can, educate yourself so you can educate others, and take all the time YOU need to help sort yourself out.

I wish you the best of luck.

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Sorry you're dealing with this, but it's not the end of the world. You will find out that it's a very manageable condition to deal with, if you are responsible. A friend of mine was infected (intentionally) and dealt with it by being open BEFORE being intimate with her next partner whom she ended-up marrying. She didn't tell this person until she was sure that she was in love, and that this person felt the same as her. The entire world doesn't have to know and it's really only your business and those who might be infected. The virus does not define you, always remember that.

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