i WAS in love

[Sub]

I don't even know if I have herpes yet, but I'm assuming it is until the clinic re-opens Thursday... Until then I'm just gearing myself up because these symptoms seem to match herpes.

Anyway, I was in love with this girl, we had been together for quite some time (just short of a year, to be exact) and we had been intimate many times, always using protection. One time, we went without, and around 6 days later (I believe a little over a month ago now) I noticed a small bump set off about half an inch from my scrodum. Anyway, the relationship went sour and we broke up for unrelated reasons and now I'm left here with this worsening condition, which she tells me she noticed on herself about 4 months ago but never told me (you see why I broke up with her, no?) about. I had been tested near the beginning of the relationship for STDs and came off clean, but she has never been tested despite having multiple partners.

Don't get me wrong here, I'm not an angel, but I didn't cheat on her and I know I was STD free going into the relationship... Someone else post a story so I don't look like a jackass heh.

[2bhealthy]

You are in no way a jack ass. At all. you trusted her to be open and honest with you and she wasn't.

It just scares me because I would think that she would not have sex with you if she had any lesions or bumps, which make me wonder can this be spread when there is no noticeable discomfort down there.

Are you on meds yet? I am on valtrex and since my 1st outbreak 1 year ago, I have not had another one. I have tingled here and there, so I am wondering if this how she felt when she past it on to you.

Since you both have it. Any thoughts on getting back together.

[Guest Anonymous]

yes you can

the virus can be spead during shedding, which means no symptoms can be visibly present. its an evil virus.

[Guest Anonymous]

married 13 years

my wife came down with some bumps on her privates.last week i looked at them and went to the dr he tested and said by the looks is it was the big H,,

were loyal to each other ,2 weeks ago we got drunk and i went down on her and we forgot about sore on my lip..

week later there's our friend..

man 13 years 3 kids ..now what..? i dont want it but i dont want to use condoms the rest of my life what a bummer..we have a verry active sex live and love each other verry much..i feel it is all my fault..

the sores popped up around the hood of her clit..

will valtrex daily keep me from getting it?

thanks...

[Sub]

Nothing can stop you from getting it 100%, not even condoms. If any part, mainly near your genitals comes in contact with an open sore, there is a good chance you'll get it. I'd say just try to prevent it as long as possible with condom use or avoiding sex while she has blisters, which is very difficult with an active sex life but might be done. Using toys is probably the best suggestion I have to satisfy her, as far as you go, it might still be possible for her to give you oral sex without spreading.

Just be careful, but don't be suprised if you get it.

[lovely79]

I was just reading through old posts and saw this one.

2b healthy asked about why someone would have sex with someone when he/she has open sores.

It's possible to get herpes when there are no symptoms at all. This is called shedding. The virus could be shedding at any time and we have no idea. Most of the people who give us herpes I'm betting are unaware that they even have the virus.... therefore without having symptoms and shedding like a motha f*****. It's a silent epidemic. Silent because no one wants to talk about it and also because most don't know they have it!

Yes, condoms don't cover all of the areas and it's not a 100% that the virus won't get ya.

Lovely

[ginnyp]

To Married 13 years:

If you gave your strain of oral hsv to your wife, you already have antibodies and some natural protection against getting it genitally from her. It is much less likely in this case that you could contract it from her by not using condoms (at a time when she is not having an ob). There is always the chance, so it is your personal choice whether or not to use condoms. But your chance is greatly reduced because you already have the same strain of hsv. IMO, if you're married 13 years and love each other very much and you don't want to use condoms, I would choose to keep having a great sex life without condoms and just be very careful if she's having any symptoms (What I would choose). If your oral is HSV1 (most likely it is) then your wife should not shed the virus as much as someone with hsv2. In that case you have reduced your chances even more. Read more info from this site, there are articles about how it is spread, how often the different strains recur, etc. Then make your choice.