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hi.im new to the website.but i've had H for almost 3 yrs now.. about 6 mos. ago.. i met a guy who i had great chemistry with (something that was lacking in my previous relationship)..i've never met somebody who i can have a connection with.. i thought that was impossible..but what we have is just amazing..(its almost like were the same person just with some differences..) my only problem is that..we have been together now (sexually) for 7 months..and i have not told him i have H.. im afraid of how he is going to react.. i dont want him to leave me or tell other ppl i have H.. i've read all the "how to tell your partner" stuff..and have called help lines..but its alwayz busy or not available . i want answers from real people who've had the same experience.. it hurts me everytime i think about my disease.. and how its gonna affect him.. i wanted to tell him so bad.. but i guess fear.. stopped me.. i really need your help..

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you should never have been with him sexually without telling him. what you did was selfish and jeapordized his health and his whole life potentially. It is hard, terrifying, and almost impossible to imagine telling someone your H status, but not telling is so unfair. I know you say what you have with him is great but it is built upon a lie and this is a huge thing to not disclose. You could lose your relationship over this because you were not honest and he may be extremely angry, hurt, and feel victimized that you did not tell and while no one wants this to be the outcome, there is a good chance he will feel that way and leave you because you violated his trust and jeapordized his body without his consent. In a perfect world he would be able to put all of that aside and not be angry and stay with you but that may or may not happen and you have to take that chance.....he deserves to know the truth.....he's deserved to all along.

You need to tell him....you may already have infected him without being aware you did and he has a right to know. Tell him in a calm place, or take a long walk somewhere and just be honest and tell him everything....the how's, the why's, the fears, anxieties you had, your deep love for him....just be honest and if he chooses to accept you or not is something you have to be ready for either way. By not telling him you have created a relationship not based on truth. I hope it goes well but either way you have support here....just try and imagine though the situation reversed....you not having H and someone knowingly putting you at risk for 7 mnths...a lot of feelings to consider there.

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