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Hi, if anyone can offer advice, i'd REALLY appreciate it...

My girlfriend recently had her first outbreak of genital herpes. I have never had sores on my genitals but i do get cold sores. I'm very stressed out by how terrible i feel because i may have given her herpes.

But here are some other things that have happened preceding her outbreak:

1) She and I went to a very dodgy sauna and steam room. she was naked on the steam room tiles, sauna boards and also she sat on the toilet.

2) She had her vagina waxed a few days before (from another thread i see that this could add stress into an outbreak)

3) She missed her period for about 3 weeks--then when it came, she also had an outbreak.

4) I gave her oral sex a few days before she had her outbreak (before she got her period)

So I really need to know, can she can get HSV2 from my HSV1? (I didn't have a cold sore when i gave her the oral sex).

She's very distraught and feels I should help pay for her taking Valtrex every day of the year--$2000 in pharmacy bills.

Greg

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WaxedWrong Acknowledged Support Member

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u gave it to her.

yes u can (no ifs, and or buts) get genital from someone who has it oraly.

u dont need to have a outbreak to spread it, its called shedding.

also u could have given it to her anyother time, and the missed period, stress, waxing could have just made it come out.

yes you should help her pay. shes your girlfriend, are you going to let her suffer because of you?

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if she got it on her genitals and it is from your cold sores then her blood tests should read HSV1 if thats what you have orally. If it reads HSV2 and you are negative for it then you did not give her it. Herpes HSV1 and HSV2 can be oral or genital. It seems you think HSV2=genital herpes only, but its not just genital. If your oral type is 1 and you know it is because of blood tests showing HSV1 antibodies, then if you gave it to her down below she would also show HSV1 antibodies, even though its in a different location. Same would be if you have HSV2 orally, then she would have antibodies to HSV2 as a result. See how that works. But yes, in short....what waxed said is absolutely true if you did give it to her. She's your girlfriend!

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I know we both had genital herpes and after giving/receiving oral sex...we know have oral herpes...so I don't see why you could pass it from genital to oral

and not oral to genital.

So yes I think you gave it to her...but hey..didn't she see cold sores on your mouth area before?? Than I'd say she partook in risky sexual behavior if she did...

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You're both adults

I'm sorry, but if you and her talked about this issue before you ever entered into a sexual act, she's partially responsible. It's not like she didn't know the risks. I'm sorry. None of us asked for this, but I bet that if I took a poll, the majority of the people here are NOT having their prescriptions costs paid for by the person that gave us this wonderful gift. I know that this may sound harsh, but it is what it is.

The guilt is going to lead you to do what you feel is right, so I say follow your heart.

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Bloody hell, what a wonderful idea - I'll ask my boyfriend to pay the costs I've incurred due to herpes - petrol, healthy (expensive sometimes) food, membership of the HSV association. Yeah right. She's angry and she wants you to pay - literally.

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tothefuture, Bloody hell. i love it. i needed a laugh. yes, i shall go dredge up my ex who is now married and ask him to the foot the lab bill i just received. did you know that for the HSVI & II blood test and Ig, Gg(?) whatever is like $400!!!! Not to mention damn Valtrex is some $600 for 60 days for those of us who are uninsured. Costly little pain in the ass this is...

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