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hi i dunt really know whts happening and i need advise. i'm 15, and my gf has had herpes1 genitelly from before me. she told me that cuz its not in her mouth, that it would be real rare to spred to me. So i only used a condom everyonce in a while. now i woke up today and i have like 6 red bumps on my dick. is that how it starts? it dont hurt or sting, and its not really a blister.

im thinking i got it. but i will get tested soon, but i wanted to know what ur guyz opinions were. i know its hard over the internet. but does the first breakout huge, or can it be little bumps?

aslo if i do have it. does that mean that my gf cant gimme head anymore??

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mine started as little bumps and it hurt to go to the bathroom. now im a girl so idk if its the same for guys if it would hurt right off the bat. it sounds like you have it tho and when they break it will hurt. ur best bet is to go and look up pictures of it and compare it to what you have. id go to the doctor asap to get it checked out that way if it is they can put you on meds. your g/f shouldnt give you head while you have the bumps. ive read that you cant get the virus orally if you have it genitally but i would do that until you know exactly what it is and just to be safe wait til your all cleared up. you dont want to do anything sexual while you have the sores.

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Really reallly sounds to me like you have it. You need to get your behind into a docter and get tested asap.

And if she has oral herpes and performs oral sex, yes you can get it that way. But it sounds as if you currently have genital herpes.

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she can in fact now get oral herpes from giving you head if you do in fact have herpes. Some statistics say the chance is low, but it definitely does happen and it is a risk....even when you have no symptoms in the future down there due to asymptomatic shedding (shedding the virus when no symptoms are present)

also, your g/f was sadly misinformed.......it is a huge risk to spread herpes every time you have ANY form of sexual contact if you have it genitally......and for that matter if you have it orally as well. Also, even with the use of condoms, herpes can still be spread....its not so simple....best bet is to see your doctor, not look at pictures online because the pictures only show what is believed to be typical outbreaks, or sometimes worst case scenarios. I have NEVER had a sore or blister, and some crazy amount of people never have blisters or sores either but have herpes....things as simple as redness, itching, rash, or feeling of little cuts without anything visibly there is how many many people experience "outbreaks" so do not compare yourself to online pics.....it will just confuse you if you do not get blisters or sores like the ones they usually show. If that were the case, millions of people would think they did not have herpes if they were to look at the pics.....heck, i would not think i had herpes looking at those pics. and Im so glad i went to the doc. for a blood test to know for sure. good luck

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well cuz she had hsv1 gentially..thats why i thought it was hard to spread

sooo now i'm more convinced i have it.. i want to blow my brains out.

here are a few questions

is the first breakout the worst? cuz its like nothing more then a few redbumps, size of a pencil dot.

she had only 1 breakout for 2-3 years, and never again, and hasn't ever taken medicine. does that mean i dunt need medacine, if it is really mild???

can we now have unprotected sex cuz we both have it, or does it get worse

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sometimes people have very bad 1st outbreaks, sometimes people have mild 1st and really bad 2-3rd outbreaks..

taking meds are up to you, ur girl gave it to u and she didnt take the meds> the meds supress the virus> u prob wouldnt have got herpes if she was on the meds, since she has type1.

yes u can, but sex might cause outbreaks> thats common in some people.

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should i be mad at her....

she told me like all the opposite information and was like sure of it. I know I should've worn a condom.. its my fault. but still i am mad at her for having all the wrong information.

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egh i would be pissed, like you have a virus, and you dont even know anything about it.. why dont you just go and kill yourself.

it all depends on how you like the girl> if u dont mind having herpes, and being with her then sure u can always use it as a advantage in any fight, but i would just tell her shes wrong, and sit her down infront of a good book/internet site, and move on

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