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ok i was diagnosed this past friday and have been feeling really depressed and confused so i went online to look up stuff on herpes. I found a story that broke my heart but also made me think n mayb it will help some of you cope a little better.

the story i read was written by a girls aunt. This little girl was raped by a family member and given herpes. The girl is only 1 yr old. Now can you imagine, i mean its bad enough she was raped and her innocence was taken away but she was also given this disease. I no how bad it hurt when i went to the bathroom and move and walk i cant imagine the pain that little girl had to go thru. it must have been a million times worse than what im feeling. plus it going in the diaper and the diaper rubbing :(. Not only that but shes going to feel so different the older she gets like for instance when shes 5, she will be used to having the disease but most likely will be the only 5 yr old with it. and when she starts dating having to tell all her boyfriends she has it. now im not saying she will feel like that i dont no her but it will be harder than if she was older and got the disease. it just made me realize im lucky, im 19 and got it from not thinking before i acted and not realizing what a cold sore could do. Plus im married and have a child. there are a lot of people like this little girl who have it worse and will have a harder time adapting being so young and all. i dont know that story just made me realize instead of thinkin my life is over and being depressed i should just be thankful that im alive and other than that and my asthma im healthy. ive decided to look at this as a small obstical that over time i will over come and i shouldnt let it get me down. and what doesnt kill you will only make you stronger and thats the attitude im gonna have about this. im not going to be ashamed anymore because i did nothing wrong. instead of looking at this negatively im going to be positive about it. this is who i am and i am going to embrace it and all my flaws. i mean its not aids or cancer that could kill me. and with medication it can help it. so i dont know it just really got me thinking and mayb it will help some of you or it will make you think im crazy. but hopefully it helps

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I know I"ve had it for 16 years...and it IS depressing to think about ..but my life is just too busy to sit and dwell on it so that helps....I was lucky and have a husband and kid who love me very much but I know that doesn't happen all the time.

I just want people to know they are NOT nasty or dirty, just think..there is ALOT of secrets people hold they won't tell anyone..you are not the only ones. Some actually kill people. Alot of people have HIV...and die from it and have to tell their kids that they are dying...or have cancer...so at least we're not dying.

I know I use to be a correctional officer and knew a 14 yr. old girl in their for a murder..a life sentence and a year before she commited murder, her uncle raped her and gave her herpes. Who did she kill? Her uncle. Poor girl.

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yea reading that broke my heart completely but it also made me look at life and the whole situation differently i just hope it helps other people realize it will be ok and they will be ok.

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Thanks, i'm being pretty positive about the whole situation. I mean, i'm over the fact i have it, and i'm not really emotionally distraught over it anymore. The only pain is the physical for me now, and that just helped me have one more reason to continue on the mindset i am in now. So thank you for sharing this!!!

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