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Lets see where do i start? Well Imma start from the beginning of the beinnings. So far I've had the worst of luck when it comes to sex. Um last year in May I got 2 STD's from my then partner and still til this day he swears he never had them, that he was good. Yeah, I'm no longer with him anymore. Not because of that, but because he was a marine. He got deployed for 6 months and for 4-5 of those months I was faithful to him. I never slept with anyone or even thought about it....that is until we broke up and I ended up getting with the guy i'm with now..and the first time me and the guy i'm with now had sex he split me...and i've had that tore ever since...and now today it comes back saying i have herpes...never had a blister or a sore...nothing....and trust i checked him, always did look to make sure everything looked normal and it was....and now i'm faced with the fact that i gotta tell him that i got it and that nine times out of ten i got it from him...part of me want a second opinion since i went to the clinic and not an actual dr. and then the other part is split in half..half of that wants to tell him, the other half dont because i don't want to risk losing him over this....which may just be the wrong diagnose....at least thats what i'm hoping it is...i'm not in denile....i'm just shocked...that i could get this at a time when everything seemed to be going good for me, with someone i wouldn't mind sharing my life with...i mean what if he doesn't have then what you know...well imma stop here because i'm starting to cry and that's one thing i don't want to do.

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MikeTwo Honeycomb Member

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I'm sorry to hear you're going through this difficult time, it can be managed and your life will go on. I have read many tough and unfortunate stories on this board so you are not alone. Keep your spirits up and talk to someone close to you or come here for extra support...good luck!

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Get a second opinion!!

I was too diagnosed at a clinic type place from a blood test with no symptoms ever. So I thought I had it (emotional rollercoaster), now I've been told by two other doctors that I don't have it (major emotional rollercoaster) and now I'm not sure if I do or I don't. Get a second opinion and hopefully you can figure out if you have it or not since I can't seem to get an answer.

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U can get your second opinion if it makes u feel better but I learned I had it from a 'free' clinic and they told me truth and here I am 16 yrs.later w/herpes still..being free has nothing to do w/it...my sister n law actually works at a free community clinic and is just as educated as someone working in her same exact field in a hospital.

You said you might have gotten it from HIM anyhow? Than I really wouldn't hestitate sharing my news...hell if he may have given it to u..he should WANT to get tested and if he doesn't..than thats not the type of guy I'd even wanna be with. not a very mature decision on his part.

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as long as you had a reliable test for herpes and it came back positive... you have it... doesn't matter were that test was run... make sure it was an igg and you will have the realest results...

I have it... I have never had a symptom... yet 2 tests both blood... say I have it... I could live in denial and say I don't because I don't have symptoms... but the tests say I do.... and I will believe them....

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There is a huge likelyhood you did NOT get it from your most current guy and that your previous boyfriend, who gave you 2 other stds gave it to you back then. When you were infected with the 2 other stds, at the same time, did you get a herpes specific blood test to see if you also contracted herpes from him at the same time period? it is more common than you think ......especially if the doc. was so focused on the other stds and did not even think to also get you a herpes blood test to see if you actually had contracted other things as well.

While getting other stds, it is possible, the herpes transmission to you went unnoticed, especially if your body was busy fighting, or reacting to the other 2 stds, herpes could easily have also been transmitted to you, without symptoms showing up, and went dormant into your system.........getting this "cut" you described from having sex with your current boyfriend could have exposed your current partner to herpes....he did not necessarily give it to you at all........you could have very well given it to him. Also, a "cut" is a very common type of an outbreak for many, myself including and it could appear like it was caused from a tear in the skin due to intercourse, however, sex and friction tend to cause outbreaks and cut like symptoms for many. Just a lot to think about..........you should contact your last boyfriend and see if he is willing to take a herpes blood test and if the results are positive then you have a good idea it was actually him who gave it to you and not your current partner.

It is also very advisable to have your new boyfriend tested because you could have given it to him and he has a right to know. also, especially if he does not have it yet, he deserves to know so he can protect himself. There is a chance he does have it too though so either way tell him, as hard as it is, honesty is the best way.

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