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Hi,

I am still not certain what I have.

Think I have HSV 1 in my genital area.....I am going for bloodwork tomorrow to find out.

I do not get sores in my genital area, but do get an irritated feeling and tingling sometimes or even a sharp sensation every so often.

It seems to be only when I am almost done with my period. This is my 3rd since May 06.

I am stresssing because I met a guy and am really into him. I did however kiss him (never had cold sore on my mouth) and now I am stressing about whether he can get it or not. Also am soooooooo confused. I dont know when to tell him!! How to tell him!! We had a fabulous time out the other night and I know he had a great time too, but we have only been on one date, if I tell him now before he gets to know me, he will run for the hills.

Also NOW feel like I am getting something on the corner of my mouth.

Can I get it there too? The guy who gave it to me had cold sores and apparently was not educated enough to know about shedding, this is how I got this shit.

HOW AM I EVER GOING TO DATE!!????

WHEN DO I TELL HIM?

HOW DO I TELL HIM?

UGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

E

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MikeTwo Honeycomb Member

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I have had HSV1 on my lips as long as I remember (probably got it inadvertantly from my Mom at a young age) and I haven't really felt the stigma or embarassment of the disease like many people have. Since you do have this (HSV1) and you could pass this to another, then you should tell the other person before you kiss or have other contact (even if you don't have sores).

In regards to HSV2, now that I'm older and more mature, I really feel obligated to say this to as many of you out there. You have control over your own body, desires and who you get intimate with and it doesn't have to happen before you truly get to know the other person. Just because you are dating someone, it doesn't mean you have to have sex (I sound like a parent don't I?) and telling someone only when you're sure you want to take that step is responsible. If that person rejects you, then it just wasn't meant to be, and I'm sure that in the long run they will gain respect for you, and I know you will for yourself. However, NEVER have sex before letting anyone know.

Best to all.

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Thanks Mike,

I guess I still dont understand this whole thing.

so, if I have HSV1 genitally do I automatically have it orally?

The way I understand it is , I can only pass it sexually.

My doc said that "anyone who kisses anyone is at risk" so I thought it was ok not to say anything cause ANYONE can have it .....God this is stressful! She made it sound like I didnt have to tell at the kissing stage.

I will always tell someone before sex, I could not live with myself otherwise. But geez, kissing? What do you say.."Hi my name is so and so, arent I pretty and by the way, I have herpies"???

Than wonder why the person does not call you.....shit he hasn't even gotten a chance to know if he even likes you yet?

Again, this sucks...I so want to write my ex and tell him I am having my 3rd "episode" and ask him if he gathered information for the next girl...

ughhhhhhhhhhhh

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We are here for you when you get your test results tomorrow. Please come in and cry if you need to.

It does take alot to get used to and search all you can on the web and get very educated about it.

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i have HSV1 genitally, and i do not have HSV1 orally. One does not automatically determine the other.

most people you meet have oral herpes and they do not know it. At least 60-70% of Americans.

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Thanks guys for the replies.

I am going to my family doctor for the bloodwork, will see if I can get some info from him too.

I probably won't have my results until next week.

What kills me is that I believe I got this in May and as of August, it was

still not showing in my blood....even the specialist was confused by that.

So going again....it has to show up by now!!

We will see.

Thank you

E

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