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Hello all,

I am really new to this. I do not have herpes but i care alot for someone who does. I got to know him for about a week and then right before Valenties day he told me he has herpes. To my surprise and his i did not freak out. Instead i asked alot of questions and he patently answered all of them. The time passed we talked everyday constantly and then one night we got hot and heavy. I got a yeast infection and he got upset at the thought of giving it to me. A few days after that he broke up with me. I have no one to really talk to about this because i have not told anyone that he has this, at his request(which i respect). We did not have sex, but i still feel a conection to him that i have never felt. I would be interested in a long term relationship with him but i feel he is pushing me away.

I also find that he is still taking it really hard. You see he got herpes from his exgirl friend cheating on him. He had not dated for 2 or so years and i am the first he has dated since he found out himself.

Please someone help me understand what he is going through. I care for him and i want to be there but he wont let me!!!!!!

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Just try and be there for him. He's probably very nervous because you are his first interest since being infected. Not to mention getting it the way he did, he probably doesn't have the same self-esteem he used to have.

It's good that you are still willing to spend and invest time in him. It will probably take some time, but he will eventually trust in you and be ready to take it slow.

And I commend you for keeping his secret safe, because as a person with HSV-2, I am very scared at having that conversation with a man and being afraid it would get out.

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You sound like a very nice person. Just let him know how you feel, and hopefully he will come around. He must be having a very hard time with this.

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You are probably the first person that he told in a while. He probably prepared himself for the worst and did not expect you to stick around. When you did, he did not know how to react. He was probably not expecting this, but I am sure with your support as others have said he will come around.

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