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Last week I slept with someone who then tells me right afterwards that she has had HSVII for 12 years. She tells me that she hasn't had an outbreak in over a year and started mega dosing Valtrex two days prior (2x 1g). From what I understand, Valtrex has to be a daily thing to help fight transmission - not a couple of days prior - don't know what she was thinking! Needless to say I was a little upset as she had plenty of opportunities and time to tell me prior. It is not like we just pulled off our clothes and jumped into bed so to speak. She chose not to tell me until she felt so guilty afterwards (too late). I think this is the most cruel thing that someone can do, they are victimizing another by exposing them to risks they have not even had the opportunity to asses.

Well the very next day, the tip of my penis began to burn. That continued for several days and I peed constantly for two days (like every 10 minutes). I haven't seen any rashes, bumps, marks, blisters at all.

I went to the Dr when I got back home and told him all the facts and I currently am awaiting the results of the blood and urine tests. They are testing for all STDs for piece of mind. The in-house urinalysis showed a very small amount of blood in the urine. The Dr didn't see anything that would indicate HSV but gave a Rx for Valtrex and I started 2x 1g a day just in case I do have it. Part of me was concerned that the Valtrex would mask the symptoms, but the Dr. and I agreed that the first OB is unusually the worst, so even if the symptoms are masked that a second OB and/or blood test would let me know. Either way, I knew that it would end up being a long term wait until I was sure.

It has now been a week and the burning tip has almost gone away. The only other symptom was I woke up in the middle of the night and my entire groin area seemed like it was on fire. I went downstairs and took an additional 500g of the Valtrex and it immediately went away, so I think that may have been totally psychosomatic. Other than that, I have not seen any physical signs of yet.... but I just have this bad feeling that I do have it. I guess I will just have to wait it out and do everything I can to minimize it if/when the OB symptoms begin to show themselves.

BTW: EMK - if you read this, Lawyers suck! Hope to see you in hell.

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people like her should be fined and jailed. weird how she started to take the valtrex 2 days before, and "mega dosing" maybe she had that tingle...

unfortunatly sometimes the first outbreak is not the worst. sometimes its just a little cut... and other outbreaks following get worse.

i would key her car and write some nasty stuff on it...since she was so afriad to tell u, now her entire neighborhood will know

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How could she DO that? How CALCULATING is she?

Have you spoken to her/seen her?

Something's obviously going on - blood in urine, burning in groin (can't see how this can be psychosomtic I'm afraid).

Whatever it is, I sincerely hope it's curable (as opposed to herpes).

Think Karma - something bad is going to happen to her (oh how I hope that theory is right!).

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weird how she started to take the valtrex 2 days before, and "mega dosing" maybe she had that tingle...

I called her right before I went to the Dr. She started crying and saying she was so, so sorry, etc. I told her I didn't want to hear it, I was just calling to get the facts so I could accurately tell the Dr.... and I wanted to know everything, without sugarcoating it as the "cat was already out of the bag".

She said no outbreaks in over a year, no indications, tingles, itching etc. She took the Valtrex purely to help minimize the chance of transmission. 500g in the morning Tue, then 1g Tue night, 1g Wen x2, 1g x 2 Thur. We did it Thur night. Fri afternoon the PP tip was beginning to burn. :oops:

It is a shame that 99% of the lawyers give the rest a bad name.

I think I am going to send her a bill for whatever the insurance co. doesn't cover for the blood/urine work.

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could be herpes but your symptoms also coincide with urinary tract infections so be optimistic.......maybe its something else.

I think it was totally selfish and wrong of her to tell you but she may have such strong feelings for you she didnt want to risk losing you and somehow thought if you two were physically connected, as well as emotionally then you might take the news better......not the best logic but ive read posts where people have written things similar to that for their reasoning.......having this is very hard.....the emotional anguish ....severe social stigma, etc......telling is probably the hardest thing to do........to put yourself totally out there and as vulnerable as possible....so there are valid reasons why her actions may have overtaken her better judgement. Either way, in my opinion it was the wrong thing to do.......so unfair to jeapordize someone elses health, emotions, and well-being....horrible thing to be put at risk like that.....im sorry you had to experience this...I hope it is not herpes. good luck

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I hope it's not herpes, but unfortunately I think you can only wait and see.

And also, not everyone is as selfish as her. I will never sleep with another man without telling him about my condition. And I know probably everyone on here feels the same way.

Oh and one more thing. I too believe in Karma. What she did to you will come back to her.

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