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newby too

Hi,

I'm Katrina. This is my 2nd time doing this and I think the first time I made have did it wrong. I'm still trying to learn how use appropriately. So, how are you doing/coping?

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lindaME Honeycomb Member

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New to this too

I am new to herpies and this site. I can't seem to figure out how to start a new thread either. Just want to say hi and learn from other people who have this stupid virus. I am 51 years old and this is still a big shock to me. Don't know where I got it since the guy I am dating tested negative.

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hi, i'm new and i'm not sure how to post a thread

Congratulations! You just did!

Welcome aboard. Keep on doing what you're doing and soon you will be an old hand.

Feel free to ask any questions - we are a friendly bunch and happy to help out where we can....

To start a thread, choose the topic you wish to post in, and you will see a blue button, under the top banner, towards the right of the screen with New Thread on it. Hit that and away you go.

After you make two posts you can head to live chat where you can get real time advice.

Good luck!

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I'm totally new to all of this and i'm in need of a little support. A few days ago i made an appointment to see the doctors cos it was hurting to wee. Because i thought it was just a urine infection i wasn't worried, but thats when i found out my boyfriend of nearly 5months had infected me with herpes. I dunno if i'm more angry or upset at him, because not only didn't he tell me he had it before i slept with him, but now he's not giving me any support. I feel like my whole world has fallen apart, like i'm dirty and discusting !! Please any advice or personal experiences would be a great help !!

Much Love :love:

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I'm totally new to all of this and i'm in need of a little support. A few days ago i made an appointment to see the doctors cos it was hurting to wee. Because i thought it was just a urine infection i wasn't worried, but thats when i found out my boyfriend of nearly 5months had infected me with herpes. I dunno if i'm more angry or upset at him, because not only didn't he tell me he had it before i slept with him, but now he's not giving me any support. I feel like my whole world has fallen apart, like i'm dirty and discusting !! Please any advice or personal experiences would be a great help !!

Has the boyfriend admitted that he knew he had herpes beforehand?

It is estimated that over 70% of those who have herpes do not know it, because they have mild or no symptoms.

You are neither dirty nor disgusting. You simply have become host to a virus that many, many other humans have.

Try reading the links on the right side of this page. They will give you the facts and hopefully a bit of peace of mind. You might start with the links under the heading Life and Love.

Take care... :wavey:

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No he didn't but now he's telling me that he knew about it ... I just don't understand how someone would willing put another person at risk without telling them !! I'm just so confused and angry !!

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No he didn't but now he's telling me that he knew about it ... I just don't understand how someone would willing put another person at risk without telling them !! I'm just so confused and angry !!

Did they do a type test when you were diagnosed? Do you know if you have HSV1 or HSV2?

So many people have oral HSV1, and a lot of them don't think of it as herpes. Also, many folks have no idea that oral herpes can be transferred to the genital area by way of oral sex.

I wonder if your bf was like that.

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I'm waiting for the results back for what type it is. Just a quick question, if either me or my boyfriend feel an OB coming on, can we cause the other to break out ?? And can we cause an OB on other parts of our bodies ?? Please message back soon

Much Love :love:

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I'm waiting for the results back for what type it is. Just a quick question, if either me or my boyfriend feel an OB coming on, can we cause the other to break out ?? And can we cause an OB on other parts of our bodies ?? Please message back soon

Hi FlowerPower ---

Having sexual activity is a known trigger for outbreaks. That's because of the friction involved --- it can cause a bit of minor trauma to the skin.

It has nothing to do with whether or not the other person is having an outbreak at the time. If you both already have herpes, that is not at issue.

Of course, if only one of you has herpes, you should avoid any sexual contact while that person is having an outbreak. This includes the time period known as prodrome, when that person is feeling symptoms that signal an outbreak is coming on.

(Personally, I can't imagine having sex during an outbreak...)

It is possible to transfer herpes to other parts of the body by touching a lesion and then touching another part of the body without washing your hands. It is called auto-inoculation. That is more likely during the very first outbreak, but is possible during recurrences as well. So use good hand washing practices.

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Thanks for the info hun :) Sorry about all the questions by the way, I've just got one more for you, how long will this first OB last approx ?? I promise this is the last question lol

Many Thanks And Much Love :love:

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Thanks for the info hun :) Sorry about all the questions by the way, I've just got one more for you, how long will this first OB last approx ?? I promise this is the last question lol

You can ask all the questions here that you need to --- that's why this forum exists! :D

Unfortunately, nobody can answer this question with any degree of certainty. Everyone has a different experience with herpes, it seems. The "typical" course of a primary outbreak is from 1 to 2 weeks in length, but I've heard folks talk about them lasting as long as a couple of months.

Sorry we can't tell you how yours will go. Hope it is over soon!

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please ask

Everyone new to this site should feel comfortable asking any questions you need to ask. There are alot of knowlegable and sympathetic people to help you. Please never think you are bothering anyone they are very supportive if you.

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First OB is nearly gone i think !! I'm starting to accept this is a part of my life now but my boyfriend is still struggling ... Can anyone give me any advice to help him get through this ?? He hates himself for giving it too me and won't talk about it, I've tried getting him on here because everyone is so supportive and helpful but he won't listen to me ... Any pointers would be great :)

Much Love :love:

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