Those recently diagnosed with Herpes...Do's and Don'ts

[Miserylovescompany26]

So you've been diagnosed with Herpes. You have the right to blame, you have the right to feel dirty, you have the right to cry. Do however GET OVER IT!, Herpes is not the end of the world, makes life a lil more interesting in an already interesting life for those who were struggling to make something of yourself and then have this curve ball thrown in your course. However, DO your research find all the pros and cons of this virus, more cons then pros, I know, but in a post I read earlier, this "gift" weeds out the UNEDUCATED individuals you will have to face. When looking for potential men/woman in your life, DO!!! take the time to get to know the person., being in a relationship with someone for 3years I didn't know my ex at all. Sex really is for the bonding of a relationship, the chance to become one. And if Sex has nothing to build from (time shared, effort and devotion from a partner) it, like any building will fall..DON"T however tell everyone that you "THINK" you could be with that you have this condition, because as I have witnessed, there are really some low, hurtful people out there and will tell you that your dirty, that you will never have a normal relationship ever again so on and so forth and really, they are in away...right...except for the dirty part. But to avoid making your situation worse, keep your secret til you find some one you truly care and who truly cares about you, which goes back to the "getting to know your partner". As I've read in another post, if you don't know how your potential mate will act or say when confronted with your news, DO ask questions and tie in the "would you date some one with a lifetime STD?", if their answer is no, then there is your answer, move on. Being diagnosed with herpes myself for the past 9 months, possibly longer considering my doc told me that I'm a carrier and the virus is "old" meaning I could have had it for years (I still wanna blame my ex cuz he's an ass and deserves to be blamed lol...so I won't admit yet that it could have been me), I had my blinders taken off to the world of sex...it's sad yes that it had to take a disease to smarten my sexual craving up and be more tasteful in my decisions but it has helped me focus on whats more important...my kids!...and Don't feel sorry for yourself and wish that it never happened, it could very well be a way to achieve a more tasteful and satisfying relationship with yourself and help you improve other things in your life that you wish to better, also DON"T let this be the end of your world, you could have been diagnosed with something else more serious. However, all in all DO be yourself. Herpes DOES NOT define who you truly are!