Worried and Scared to Death

[Stupid01]

Ok...I just found out last Thursday that I had this nasty thing. I really didn't know what to say...I was (am) in total 100% shock.

I'm still trying to figure out how I'm going to manage. The medicine is expensive but I know I need to take it. My doctor told me that the virus is very recent -- it showed up on the cultures but not in my blood yet. So she said I was probably infected anywhere from 2-6 weeks ago.

I don't know about other women -- but the sores don't hurt all that much -- i have some itching, but I have a lot of pain in my legs and when urinating. The pain while urinating is finally easing -- after being on meds for 3 days -- but the pain in my lower back and legs still hurts like hell. Is this normal for some? I have read where it could be one of the symptons.

I totally don't know what to say to the partners I've had in the recent past. If I tell them I have it -- then they will blame me and probably never speak to me again. If I say nothing -- then I'm putting them and everyone they are with -- at risk. I am sooo confused. I pretty much feel my sex life is over.

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Your sex life is not over

From what I have been reading it is pretty normal for some to have pain. It would not hurt for you to ask your DR. for pain meds. As for me, I am a woman and I do not get any of those symptoms. I just get one blister at a time. I got my first one this January and was diagnosed last Thursday as well.

As for sex, I'm not going to let this ruin my sex life. The difference is that you have to start a relationship with the person first and then inform them to what you have, but don't tell them you have something terrible to tell them or that you have a horrible disease. How you are to present it to them is how they are going to percieve it. Some people though are just ignorant and you are going to have to deal with that, but who cares about those people. There are more open-minded people out there than you think.

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great people out there....not to worry.

My current partner took it well when I said I had herpes. I told him before we slept together. I asked him to go get tested before we had sex. For whatever reason I felt it was best. He turned up negative. And has not had any issues with our sex life. He was totally fine with it and knows he can get it from me. He's been checked twice this year and so far so good.

Yes, there are open people out there. Try not to let this get you down, too much. no one likes having this. It's normal to be depressed over it, for awhile. especially when you are having a breakout.

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