I feel dirty. hopeful, but shameful.

[imstillhere07]

I can't help but feel dirty. Oh hi, im a new member. But yeah i can't help but compare the disease to leprocy(that spelling looks wrong-lol) My mom says thats not true and i shouldn't think like that. I'm trying not to but it's hard you know? I mean no one wants to talk about it. When i was younger we would associate herpes with the hoe, the bird in town, the get-around girl, so now(although that was so not the case with me) thats how i feel. Truly i am still trying to investigate my situation. How i got it. i've only had two sexual partners in the past 2 years... and both of them got tested and they are H-free!! that just doesn't make any sence. It really hurts when something tragic like an incurable disease appears in your life, in your health, but when you don't know who where when why, that just makes it even more confusing?? Any body on the same page as I am? hit me up.

I'M STILL HERE THOUGH!

[hopingseeking]

I'm sorry... I know how you feel..... It's tough. The uncurable part is the hardest.. we're so used in our society to having a cure. To be told there's nothing is just... so hopeless. So yeah. Tough it out, the experienced members who have given me advice all say it gets better.

[Miriam]

Cheer up!

Herpes is an annoying desease; it's unfortunate you got it, but it's hardly a tragedy. There are millions of people like you and me, people who continue living and loving in spite of having herpes. We are NOT dirty, and there is nothing for us to be ashamed of. HSV can strike anyone, anywhere. If you knew me, you'd have never guessed I had it - A respectable middle-class woman with two children and a husband (who btw gave herpes to me!), an advanced degree and a career in education (teaching young people like yourself!). Life will go on, believe me. It did for me, for 16 years after contracting herpes. Cheer up and good luck!!

[katb]

Although herpes is incurable, it is not dangerous. HSV very rarely causes complications or other health problems.

[tall one]

my aunt had cold sores on her lip from time to time.. when i was going up,like

when i was 10- 18 and i gave hr so much shit.. like "you know coldsores are really herpes-1. don't you?" and luagh.... !

but now, its not all that funny. And i have since aplogized since then. but i

still feel horrible about it..

[momintx]

Let's all just be thankful that it's only annoying and not life-threatening. My sister-in-law has MS, also incurable, and we're basically watching her die little by little. Yes, it was devastating news to hear I had H, but put it in perspective and be glad it's not a death sentence.