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Today I got the call from my physician and got the news. I don't know what to think or do. It's all my fault for having unprotected intercourse with multiple partners thinking something like this won't happen to me. But I should of known better having worked with family planning for 3 years and seen many patients come in for testing and treatment. What the hell am I gonna do? There's two men I need to tell but I don't know how to do it. One is the father of my children and the other is a great guy who'll be returning from deployment in a few weeks. I feel so stupid! I wanna crawl under a rock and die! But I have two beautiful children and about to get my life back by returning to college. God, help me get through this without me doing something stupid. I haven't told anyone yet. I don't know if I can.

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  • 4 weeks later...

a little encouragement

I just found out like four or five months ago. I got my diagnosis over the PHONE on a FRIDAY NIGHT! I was in the middle of planning my WEDDING with my husband who is just about to deploy AGAIN to Iraq....allI could do was sit and stare at my computer screen and drink red wine out of the bottle while listening to that country song "I'd sure hate to break down here." My roommate came in and was like, "Whoa...are you ok?" I just sorta stared through him and took another swig til I'd emptied about a twelve pack a beer and a bottle and half of wine. Did that for the whole week til I could get in to ask my doc my 40 billion burning questions (no pun intended) I was and still am a researching fool. ALways learning as much as I can becuase It aint gonna go away! Just make peace with it and put it in perspective. It's not CONSTANT. Look at the statistics some 80-90% of people have it and DON'T EVEN KNOW IT! Its easy for them to criticize and shriek at us like we're freaks til they get that call...also its not included in the standard STD panel (tests) plus its manageable. I take suppressive acyclovir because that works for ME. I also try to excersice and be healthy and it's really NOT THAT big of a deal. you can still be in a relationship, have healthy beautiful children and go kyaking Ljust like in the Valtrex commercials LOL! But seriously. Its a shock and I STILL struggle with the "Why me?" from time to time but it doesn't affect my life unless I'm having an outbreak, which tend to lessen over time the longer you have the virus. So skip the binge drinking step that I went through, get on the web, go to ur doc and find out what works best for YOU ;) Best of luck, hope my extremely long winded personal experience helps.

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hey, so i don't think its 80-90% of people have it and don't even know it, its 80-90% of the people inFECTED (one out of four or one out of five) don't know they have it...(hsv2 that is, hsv1 is as common as body hair)

so it makes it tougher for the ones that actually KNOW we have it because even tho 1 in 4 people might have it, 90% of them don't know...so only 10% of those 1 in 4 know....making statistics that even III can't figure out....

i feel slightly alone...as of now...

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