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Has anyone else here been diagnosed with genital herpes eventhough the sore was not located on the genitals? I was diagnosed with genital herpes from a sore that was on my mid lower back. I also get them on the side of my waist. And what's with all the sites that say they don't scar. I have scars on my side, on my mid lower back and the crack of my butt. They also told me that usually they appear where the virus came in at and I've never had anal sex before. Then another doctor told me that it is possible that I got genital herpes from ejaculate on my back and my butt crack. But I always thought you had to have sex to get it. I'm so confused about this stuff. Although, I am very lucky...one year after I was diagnosed my boyfriend at the time knew that whole year that I had it & suprised me with a proposal for marriage & now we are happily married. Although, it is still really hard for me to show my naked body esp. with those damn scars, i'm not supposed to have. They just keep coming back on those same spots over and over and over again. It's been 2 years now since i was dianosed and it seems like the OB's are getting worse and worse and more frequent.

Please give me some support. This is my first time trying to talk to someone. My husband does not seem to want to know about it, it seems he tries to act like it never happened. And it's hard for me to accept sometimes. Esp. he may be the one who gave it to me, but I will never know that because the ranges of time vary so much before your first outbreak occurs.

Anyway, someone pls. talk to me.



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Have you had a blood test to find out for sure if you have herpes? And which type of herpes? (1 or 2). it IS possible to get herpes in areas along the back, hips, thighs (inner thighs especially) as well as on the genitalia. But there shouldn't be scarring, unless perhaps the sore was rubbed or picked at , then it can scar pretty bad. Make sure to try and wear loose clothing during an outbreak.

also, perhaps you should try and take some antiviral meds for a while to get your outbreaks at bay. Are you under any additional stress right now? Hormone changes? severe weight gain/weight loss? Work stress? Change in diet? These things can also all contribute to increased outbreaks.

Please go talk to your doctor or local planned parenthood. perhaps they can help you with this. Like I said, it may be that you just need some meds to get this stuff in check...take it suppressively for a while until your body is able to handle the virus on its own.

Keep us posted and good luck.

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I'm curious to how you were diagnosed. Supposedly getting it outside of the oral/genital regions is rare, soo..... yeah. Get a blood test. Ps. not to judge or anything, but you and your husband seem to have some bigger problems at hand. Try sitting down and calmly discussing whatever it is.

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