Hello M25 from England

[gutted.]

hiya folks..

i got diagnosed about a year ago, turned out i coaught it from a one nite stand, and then passed it onto my girlfriend at the time..

she knew of the one nite stand, and had already forgiven me, and suprisingly didnt seem to mind about the herpes, and we carried on like normal...

however we broke up a month ago, and now im thinking about my infection more and more --

ive recently met a new girl, and after several dates we have got together..

i told her about my little problem, she understood and thanked me for being honest, and wants to continue the relasonship - using condoms when we have sex.

however i know the problem will linger in her mind, as it would mine, and maybe make her feel uncomfortable about sex, etc etc

i keep reading on the internet about all these different miracle cures - has anyone tried any of these?

i dont get many break outs to be fair, maybe 3 since i was diagnosed.

id hate to give it anyone, any advice would be great thanks people.

[ouch]

Many people take antiviral meds like Valtrex suppressively, and this is suppose to help (but not 100% eliminate) the chance of contracting herpes. Perhaps you can try this, although, if you only get a minimal of outbreaks, I would say your immune system is pretty kick ass and why screw things up (the old if it ain't broke don't fix it schtick, right?) But that is an option.

Another is to just practice safe sex, even though it isn't foolproof and to be sure to "clean up" well afterwards. (shower and what not...herpes HATES soap!)

Fortunately, as a man, it is easier to know when you are having an outbreak due to your "plumbing" (not always so easy for us ladies.) Just routinely check things out before engaging in sex as well. Although you can pass herpes off when NOT showing signs of an outbreak, I think this is much more rare than we allow ourselves to believe.

Good luck to you in what you decide and continue to stay strong and healthy!

[why me]

]I would not tell people that it is rare to pass on herpes without symptoms.That is exactly how I got infected.My husband had no sign of a coldsore but gave it to me on the genitals fom oral sex.I have chatted with few people in the same situation on this site.SO EVERYBODY PLEASE BE CAREFULL!

[BoxofRain]

i also got it from my boyfriend who had no symptoms at the time and who NEVER had any symptoms previous to infecting me ever....so it is very possible. There are tons of statistics stating that more people contract this when no symptoms are present than when symptoms are there and that makes a lot more sense of why so many people pass it on and arent aware...... in past years, it was originally thought that the virus was spread primarily only from active breakouts but that has since long been proved not to be the case....and now with all the current statistics and cases finally documented that occur when no symptoms were present it is very alarming and devastating (to those infected) that it is in fact extremely common to transfer the virus when no symptoms are present for over half of all people infected with herpes.

[gutted.]

Thanks for responding.

ill be posting more often now i know i have peeps to talk to it about

i found the hardest thing was being able to talk to sumone and express my true feelings without the feeling of the person maybe telling sumone and me feeling like an outcast.

[uk girl]

Hi i have just joinedthis site, and its good to find people who r going thru the same, this was just how i caught it from my husband, while we were having a romantic weekend away!!! I just feel really mad that i am left with this i know he suffers from colesores but they are so more accetable arent they?? I havent been able to tell anyone only my husband i feel so dirty and isolated at the moment, my husband feels very guilty,and has been great, i just dont know how to move on from this any ideas??