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djtaucher

Hey guys. I am new to this forum.

I am a 20 year old female, been in 2 committed relationships in my life.

Parter #1: Dated him for 4 years. He lost his virginity to a virgin, for sure. Never had any HSV-1 or HSV-2 symptoms.

Partner #2: Been dating him for about 6 months. He has had 4 previous partners before me, and never had any HSV-1 or HSV-2 outbreak symptoms.

He went many years without sex, and he is older than I am. He's never had any STD.

Both my partners ALWAYS used condoms every time they had intercourse with ALL their partners.

I have HSV-1, orally. For whatever reason, not even sure why, I have an incredible phobia of getting HSV-2. I do not think I am at high risk to get it, but you never know. This is an irrational fear.

Can anyone calm me down? Is there any advice you have?

Should I even bother getting blood tested for it?

How can I stop this worry from taking over my life, which it is right now? I am not sure what to do. I am in counselling.

I spend a lot of time examining my labia, worrying about things, and thinking I have HSV-2.

Please help.

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WarriorKing

Medically HSV2 is usually a small issue in the lives of people that carry it. And most don't even know that they carry it and may never have an outbreak. It is a virus that has hosted in humans for over 4500 years. About 30 years ago a stigma or scarlet letter was invented about HSV2 so that a drug company could make more profits.

You can reject the stigma. It's a big lie. This is probably what you are buying into and in fear of. If you want to find something to fear in life, there are much bigger things than genital herpes to fear.

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Hey guys. I am new to this forum.

I am a 20 year old female, been in 2 committed relationships in my life.

Parter #1: Dated him for 4 years. He lost his virginity to a virgin, for sure. Never had any HSV-1 or HSV-2 symptoms.

Partner #2: Been dating him for about 6 months. He has had 4 previous partners before me, and never had any HSV-1 or HSV-2 outbreak symptoms.

He went many years without sex, and he is older than I am. He's never had any STD.

Both my partners ALWAYS used condoms every time they had intercourse with ALL their partners.

I have HSV-1, orally. For whatever reason, not even sure why, I have an incredible phobia of getting HSV-2. I do not think I am at high risk to get it, but you never know. This is an irrational fear.

Can anyone calm me down? Is there any advice you have?

Should I even bother getting blood tested for it?

How can I stop this worry from taking over my life, which it is right now? I am not sure what to do. I am in counselling.

I spend a lot of time examining my labia, worrying about things, and thinking I have HSV-2.

Please help.

:(

Hey dk, welcome to our site. :) I have had ghsv2 for 24 years now, I'm married to a non h man as well. We also have a daughter. I give my h no powers. No control over my life or my marriage. Why would we. Please stop checking your body, this causing anxieties and stress, now this is bad for total overall health. You will be fine. I take antivirals and they supress the outbreaks and reduce the viral shedding. Here is a book please read all you can about h www.westoverheights.com , take care and ask any questions. Truly, Ace :hithere:

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hatsu

if you've never had an outbreak, and both of your partners said they don't have it, why are you worrying about this so much? get the blood test, maybe then you can relax after you get the results.

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Hey guys. I am new to this forum.

I am a 20 year old female, been in 2 committed relationships in my life.

Parter #1: Dated him for 4 years. He lost his virginity to a virgin, for sure. Never had any HSV-1 or HSV-2 symptoms.

Partner #2: Been dating him for about 6 months. He has had 4 previous partners before me, and never had any HSV-1 or HSV-2 outbreak symptoms.

He went many years without sex, and he is older than I am. He's never had any STD.

Both my partners ALWAYS used condoms every time they had intercourse with ALL their partners.

I have HSV-1, orally. For whatever reason, not even sure why, I have an incredible phobia of getting HSV-2. I do not think I am at high risk to get it, but you never know. This is an irrational fear.

Can anyone calm me down? Is there any advice you have?

Should I even bother getting blood tested for it?

How can I stop this worry from taking over my life, which it is right now? I am not sure what to do. I am in counselling.

I spend a lot of time examining my labia, worrying about things, and thinking I have HSV-2.

Please help.

:(

Did you recently did you get Oral HSV 1?

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djtaucher

Not recently. Maybe when I was 3 years old, so like 17 years ago.

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Hey dj, unless both partners have tested specifically for herps, with the Igg blood test, they cannot say for sure neither have been exposed. Many carry this virus but never properly test, therefore they never get properly diagnosed. If they have oral, like you, they could transmit that to your genitals. Especially older adults who have older families and friends. Many have had a cold sore, they just didn't know it was h. I have genital h 2 and I don't worry about oral h1. Your body now has some protective antibodies built up to protect some from herps. I say your stress and anxieties are what will make your immune system low. I take meds for my anxieties. Did you know that stress and anxieties are one of our nations leading killers. It brings on many things, heart attacks, strokes, high blood pressures. Herps should be the least worrisome thing. You already have had h1 for many many years. I'd say getting this stress undercontrol is what you may need to do first. Talk to your doctor explain your concerns, maybe they will work to help you get past this. Diets and exercises also play major roll in keys to healthy body and mind. Take care hon, relax. By the way condoms only give about 30% of protection from h. And your ur first relationship with a virgin, well your proof you don't have to have sex to get oral herps. Either one of those two relationships could already have h of either form. Take care, hugs. Truly, Ace :hithere:

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Hey dj, unless both partners have tested specifically for herps, with the Igg blood test, they cannot say for sure neither have been exposed. Many carry this virus but never properly test, therefore they never get properly diagnosed. If they have oral, like you, they could transmit that to your genitals. Especially older adults who have older families and friends. Many have had a cold sore, they just didn't know it was h. I have genital h 2 and I don't worry about oral h1. Your body now has some protective antibodies built up to protect some from herps. I say your stress and anxieties are what will make your immune system low. I take meds for my anxieties. Did you know that stress and anxieties are one of our nations leading killers. It brings on many things, heart attacks, strokes, high blood pressures. Herps should be the least worrisome thing. You already have had h1 for many many years. I'd say getting this stress undercontrol is what you may need to do first. Talk to your doctor explain your concerns, maybe they will work to help you get past this. Diets and exercises also play major roll in keys to healthy body and mind. Take care hon, relax. By the way condoms only give about 30% of protection from h. And your ur first relationship with a virgin, well your proof you don't have to have sex to get oral herps. Either one of those two relationships could already have h of either form. Take care, hugs. Truly, Ace :hithere:

That is true. Neither of my partners had any blood test done. Though my current partner told me that about 10 years ago, he went to the doctor and was offered an STD test and they took blood and tested him for lots of stuff (he doesn't remember what, though) and said the results came back squeaky clean.

I am aware a lot of people can be asymptotic. And I figure if that is the case, then I am not that concerned about getting it from my partner because we take precautions. I'd never give oral sex with an outbreak, and he would tell me if he had any new symptoms of any STD, especially herpes.

I do wonder that if I had HSV-1 and 2, would I have an outbreak on my mouth and genitals AT THE SAME TIME? It would make sense right?

The last outbreak I had was Dec 2011, because I was sick as hell. My entire immune system literally crashed. I was in the hospital, puking, fever of 104 degrees, practically dead. I got an oral outbreak not even Abreva could come close to helping. I figured that if I had HSV-2, at the time, it would have showed its face too. I even got a yeast infection from how sick I was.

Which makes me think that the timeline of any possible herpes would be from January 2012 to now.

Very confusing...haha

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Hey dj, your current partner tested 10 years ago, but that doesn't mean he has not come into contact with someone who has had h. I'm 24 years with ghsv2. I've lived through many adversities, loosing a child, hysterectomy, gallbladder poisoning. My dad in law died brain cancer, in my arms, still no ob. My daughter graduates and readys to leave for college, guess what, second ob ever! Now this shows us how the mind stresses can play havoc on our immune systems. I stayed dormant 23 years, a little thing like going off to college and the internal stresses kicked in high gears. I take anxiety meds, they help, but my mind set had to be adjusted. Talk about a shocker, lol.. No rules with h, just because you have ob for one doesn't mean you will also have an ob at the same time for h2. Just relax, after 17, your h still shedds, viral shedding occurs even with a condom. So if your get h2, don't worry, you do have some antibodies to protect and with antivirals, you less than 2% of passing h. I say try Vit.b12 and antivirals, maybe this will ease your mind. I've taken them for 24 years, never leave home without it. My hubby tested almost two months ago soon, my late birthday gift. He tested for me and anxieties, not for himself. He says if/when he gets it, so be it. We married to be together as life partners, for better and for worst. Believe me when I say we have had plenty of both. Take care, hugs Truly, Ace :)

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