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noring

So, i went out on a date tonight and cried all the way home.

Backstory...I met him a year ago and since then we have been out together many times but just seemed to make better friends. About a month or so ago he gave me an offer of a relationship. I struggled a bit with the age differene (12 years) but decided to try it out and agreed to weekly dates...ease my way into it. I agreed to this just a day before my diagnosis. We went on two dates since and I absolutely love spending time with him and now do feel that I could be with him every day. Tonight he began to hint around again about a relationship and I couldnt get myself to say anything. I left there with a smile on my face because he makes me feel so good but yet I cried all the way home because I dont wanna tell him about you know what. I keep wondering if I should tell him at all...should I just keep us as friends so I dont ever have to tell him or...should I tell him and risk losing a great friend.

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FML123

Dont cry :( Just tell him. Ive told two guys so far and they were sooo accepting. That blew my mind! You seem to like him. Just tell him. If he is your true friend he will accept it regardless! What person in their right mind would stop being somebody's friend because of this!? That's like saying...you have shingles...I am not your friend. Who does that? No normal human being. Idk...he seems like a good guy...he seems like he will accept it. Follow your heart though.

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noring

Thanks, You have great words of advice. I guess I just need a bit more courage. Even if he decides not to be more than friends...it would be nice to have a friend who knows.

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FML123

oh of course....so you haven't told anybody?

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chickentuna

eventhough im still with the boyfriend that gave H to ME, i can still relate to the dating thing... what if i have to start over, what if i have to tell someone else.. but yeh FML123 you had some great words and seems like you have helped noring.. To Noring, yes this guy seems accepting. and as an older gentlemen (i like older guys too :) ) he SHOULD be mature about the situation.. and like you said if he is just a good friend throughout your life, that would only mean the world to you because we all need that one person at least to talk to in person about this, also, keep us updated on your date ;)

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noring

I've told the handful of guys I've been with since I think I got it. Some were very accepting and supportive, others were pretty shitty. I only told them cuz I felt it fair to tell them to get tested. Kinda so I could find out if I got it from them too. Telling them was tough as hell and these are guys who have seen me naked. I've not told friends because if it was tough to tell the guys it would be tougher to tell people whom I haven't shared intimacy with. I was able to have sexual conversation with the guys but don't do that with the friends. (No, I don't have close girlfriends that I share everything with)

Anyway, with the guy I had the date with he is 12 years younger not older. That makes a bit of a difference with telling him huh chickentuna.

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