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Wondering why I've never spread HSV 2?

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QuizzicalGrl

I've had HSV 2 for eight years and have had several partners, some who I have told my status, others not, some who I've had protected and unprotected sex with, but have never transmitted the disease. I am wondering what factors go into transmitting HSV 2? I hardly get outbreaks either and sometimes forget I am even infected. If and when I get an outbreak I sometimes don't have to take my Valtrex bc the sores go away after a day or two. What are the chances of female to male transmission unprotected and protected? Thank you!

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FML123

QuizzicalGrl.....is there anything specific you do that you think keeps you from getting outbreaks? i just got diagnosed. I pray I am one of those people that hardly gets them. Do you take Valtrex daily or only when you have an ob?

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QuizzicalGrl

I'm thinking it has to do with being a healthy person? Idk but its true what they say that the first year is the worst, then the OBs subside after that...I dont take Valtrex everyday, I only took it when I had an OB..

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kopperatcr
I've had HSV 2 for eight years and have had several partners, some who I have told my status, others not, some who I've had protected and unprotected sex with, but have never transmitted the disease. I am wondering what factors go into transmitting HSV 2? I hardly get outbreaks either and sometimes forget I am even infected. If and when I get an outbreak I sometimes don't have to take my Valtrex bc the sores go away after a day or two. What are the chances of female to male transmission unprotected and protected? Thank you!

Well I've only had one partner after being diagnosed but she never got infected I would like to know the reason too :)

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RealisticGal
I've had HSV 2 for eight years and have had several partners, some who I have told my status, others not, some who I've had protected and unprotected sex with, but have never transmitted the disease. I am wondering what factors go into transmitting HSV 2? I hardly get outbreaks either and sometimes forget I am even infected. If and when I get an outbreak I sometimes don't have to take my Valtrex bc the sores go away after a day or two. What are the chances of female to male transmission unprotected and protected? Thank you!

It does sound as if you have a strong immune system. That could well have something to do with your situation. You probably have a lower viral load than some others who have HSV.

What is the basis for your statement that none of your past partners have acquired the virus?

  • Is it because none of them ever told you they did?

  • Is it because none have ever had a known outbreak?

  • Is it because they have all tested clear at least 6 months after the last time they had sex with you?

You can find a variety of statistics about the female to male transmission rates. I consider them somewhat useless. One useful point is that HSV is not an efficient virus. Most occurrences of intimacy do not result in transfer of the virus, even when particles are present in the genital area.

A lot of times, whether or not a person gets HSV seems to come down to the luck of the draw.

:wavey:

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Dummy

I find it soooooooo disheartening that when your diagnosed most docs say.. "Hey .. wait til you heal and get back at it" ... then you come here and hear "your contagious as hell , especially the first year" Seems like anything you touch is on AUTO-HERP... LOL.. sad sad sad... I'm glad I'm married.. ALthough I'm praying for a cure just as hard as single folks..

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traveller99

Hey Dummy,

I think that the way medical professionals deal with this is horrible. Ive heard "you have it now, so there is no use being upset". "This wont change your sex life at all" and all i wanted to do at that point was kill myself. They just don't understand. Im in the UK and there is very little understanding and support. Ive tried to reach out to doctors....i really had to, but ive been just turned away and had to deal with it myself. I wish there was just some way of knowing if im contagious at that point in time! I get tingling nearly everyday, and i got told not to have sex when i have sensations, its been months and the tingling hasent stopped....does that mean im now celibate? No one has any answers and we all have so many questions......

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kopperatcr

and the thing is in my case since I had someone in the past and that person does not have it....should I go having sex without saying I have this. Since I am contagious type? I mean having and not transmitting it is bad since people just go away from you because they think they can be infected

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Acesheart
and the thing is in my case since I had someone in the past and that person does not have it....should I go having sex without saying I have this. Since I am contagious type? I mean having and not transmitting it is bad since people just go away from you because they think they can be infected

Hey kopper, disclosing is always the way to go. Why would you not? Being rejected will happen in life for many reasons and in many situations, so why not be honest in the beginning? That is the one betrayal most won't forgive. It's the right thing to do. Ask anyone here, like me, who got it from someone who knew that they had something and didn't disclose. Do the right thing. Take care, Ace :hithere:

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