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New to the Life: How does herpes change your life?

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NiceGuy9

I guess I just want to know how everyone thinks that herpes has changed their lives, good or bad. The only huge thing I can think of is A) the discomfort it causes when you have an OB and B) that you really have to be careful who you have sexual relations with and that maybe now you must search for love and someone to accept and love you rather than lust at all. I'm just trying to adjust so any advice and experience would be really appreciated during this process :/

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I guess I just want to know how everyone thinks that herpes has changed their lives, good or bad. The only huge thing I can think of is A) the discomfort it causes when you have an OB and B) that you really have to be careful who you have sexual relations with and that maybe now you must search for love and someone to accept and love you rather than lust at all. I'm just trying to adjust so any advice and experience would be really appreciated during this process :/

I was newly married when I got my h, first husband. I got divorced and took two years to get myself together. My now husband waited two years for me to be physically and emotionally healthy. He said I was worth the wait :love: , he was and still is my best friend. You will be fine. One rule of thumb is disclosing, its a must. If you trust them and want to receive trust , you must disclose. I just blurted out to my now husband " I have genital herpes, my hubby gave it to me" we cryed , he stayed and now 22 years later we are still together and we have a daughter too. Just relax, here is a book www.westoverheights.com, read it when you feeling better. By the way, with my antivirals, I have only had two outbreaks ever. :) . I'm ghsv2 . Take care, hugs Ace :hithere:

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what antivirals do you take/do you take them daily? Thanks Ace!

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what antivirals do you take/do you take them daily? Thanks Ace!

I take generic Valtrex called, Valacyclovir. I started the first 16 years with Acyclovir, valtrex wasn't invented. Valtrex and its generic brother contain acyclovir, so stayes longer in the body, you take less pills. Yes, daily supressive therapy..It's always worked for me and never any side effects :).

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another question ace: I know my days of any kind of 'casual sex' are over which is difficult at my young age. I never had sex with a girl I did not like but it wasn't always a girl who i thought there was a deep future with. I should definitely tell any girl who I want to have sex with that i have it right? I could never risk giving it to someone without them knowing the risk, but this just seems like a very difficult thing to do. Say i like a girl and we want to have sex, how many girls would honestly have sex with a guy with herpes before like a year of a relationship at the age of 21? :/

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another question ace: I know my days of any kind of 'casual sex' are over which is difficult at my young age. I never had sex with a girl I did not like but it wasn't always a girl who i thought there was a deep future with. I should definitely tell any girl who I want to have sex with that i have it right? I could never risk giving it to someone without them knowing the risk, but this just seems like a very difficult thing to do. Say i like a girl and we want to have sex, how many girls would honestly have sex with a guy with herpes before like a year of a relationship at the age of 21? :/

Hey Guy, I was 26 and just thought my life was over. I had only had one other partner ever. Yes, you can have casual sex with an h woman. Many , well all ladies here would love to meet a guy like you :) . You don't have to limit who you date. Remember my husband is non h for 22 years. With an h girl, no need for talking. Anyone who is worth having sexy times with and oral, is worth telling. Yes, we have both unprotected. I was honest, it payed off ;).

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Hey! I'm in a friends-with-benefits relationship right now with a guy who knows about my status. I consider that casual sex. I'm not sure how this would affect one night stands as I've never had one and have no interest in having one, but my guess is that that kind of casual sex probably has been limited. But you can still find girls you like and hopefully have those friends with benefits relationships or whatever you're looking for that's still "casual." They might be a little harder to find but I doubt it's impossible! Good luck. And try to enjoy everything else that comes with being 21 :)

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