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Dating with cold sores

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I recently started dating a girl and after a long night of drinking last friday thought we were going to mess around. She flipped out a bit which I assumed was just unreasonable drunken ranting and I slept on the couch. Sunday she told me she found out about a month ago that she was a carrier HSV1 but has never had an outbreak and it has her very stressed out.

I've been reading all morning and have seen so much conflicting information that I don't have a clue what's safe and what's not at this point. From what I can tell it sounds like, without an outbreak, the chances of transmitting are very low. Is that right? Sex, kissing, oral? Are there any special precautions we should take?

The other thing I want advice on is how I can help her deal with it emotionally. A big part of her stress right now is because we can't find any reliable information so talking to her OBGYN today will be a good start. But I know her well enough to know she'll still be paranoid. We haven't been seeing each other long but I'm interested enough in her that I feel like this is a non-issue. I've told her that whatever we find out we can and can't do safely, it will be ok and we'll deal with it together. Is there anything else I can do other than just let her get over it on her own?

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Hello and welcome to hc support! How considerate of you to join for your girlfriend. :) In the usa, 80% of the population has hsv1. It varies country to country but is always a high percent, countries that commonly greet with kisses have especially high rates. So you have very likely come into contact with it before and may even have it yourself. In the herpes info library links to the right, you will find good information.

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