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I was diagnosed with genital HSV-2 two and a half years ago.. I was/am dating my first serious boyfriend and he is only the 3rd guy I've ever slept with. We are reaching our 3rd year anniversary and may have had sex 10 times since I've been diagnosed ): it has almost ruined our relationship. Has anyone else had a total lack of sex drive or mental block because of their diagnosis? I don't know if I blame him deep down inside, even though he had no idea and doesn't have any symptoms. I have been thinking about going to see a therapist, but I figured I could give this a shot first, plus it's a lot cheaper method. I really don't want to lose my boyfriend, but it seems our lack of intimacy has him upset and angry all the time. We haven't had sex in 5 months and every time he tries to, I push him away. Has anyone else experience anything like this or can give advice? ):

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I was diagnosed with genital HSV-2 two and a half years ago.. I was/am dating my first serious boyfriend and he is only the 3rd guy I've ever slept with. We are reaching our 3rd year anniversary and may have had sex 10 times since I've been diagnosed ): it has almost ruined our relationship. Has anyone else had a total lack of sex drive or mental block because of their diagnosis? I don't know if I blame him deep down inside, even though he had no idea and doesn't have any symptoms. I have been thinking about going to see a therapist, but I figured I could give this a shot first, plus it's a lot cheaper method. I really don't want to lose my boyfriend, but it seems our lack of intimacy has him upset and angry all the time. We haven't had sex in 5 months and every time he tries to, I push him away. Has anyone else experience anything like this or can give advice? ):

Hey Mississippi, I sought therapy. It helped me get over that hump. I was married when I got h, blamed myself for his cheating ways. It took me two years to physially and emotionally heal. Has the bf tested? He most probably has h?. I'm sorry honey that your feeling so lost, I've been there. It will get better I promise. Take care. I did get my sexy back, and I got married. Had a daughter too. Hugs, Ace :hithere:

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Hey Mississippi, I sought therapy. It helped me get over that hump. I was married when I got h, blamed myself for his cheating ways. It took me two years to physially and emotionally heal. Has the bf tested? He most probably has h?. I'm sorry honey that your feeling so lost, I've been there. It will get better I promise. Take care. I did get my sexy back, and I got married. Had a daughter too. Hugs, Ace :hithere:

I've been thinking about therapy for about a year now but just haven't made the move, I may need to make that my priority in the new year. He has not been tested yet, but I want him to. Just so there's no doubt on his part due to his lack of symptoms, however, due to his promiscuous past, it seems likely that I did get it from him. Thank you so much for your advice and kind words!(:

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If there is anything I've learned you don't have to have a past, sexy times, to get h. I only had one partner and he and I had made love just once. When I married, back then 27 years ago, they made you take blood test to be sure you were both free of communicable diseases. So I thought I was safe, secured.and protected. I was marring my best friend of 5 years. My world shattered when he betrayed me. My parents abandoned me at age eight, so yeah, I needed therapy. :) Best thing I ever did. She gave me permission, allowed me to allow myself to be happy. I had to forgive myself for all the horrible things others did to me. I didn't chose what they did to me, it just happened. I felt like I allowed it to happen. Now I'm great!. After the first two years, I got my sexy back. I got myself right. I made that choice for therapy to basically save myself from myself. My now husband entered my life when I was going through all this. He quietly sat back and allowed me to heal. When he proposed, he knew all my self made demons. He experienced my lows and highs. He never faltered. He said he had always loved me. That was foreign to me. Having someone love me for being me. But yes, please try it. It saved me :) . I have never regretted it. Take care honey, Ace :hithere:

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