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Hello everyone,

I have not been officially diagnosed, but I'm 99% sure that I have HSV2. I plan on making it official this week.

This is the first time I've ever had a breakout and I'm still at the point where I wake up in the morning hoping it is some bad dream, but unfortunately it's real. I'm so bummed and I think this is the most upset I've been about something that I can remember. This is so tough for me to accept because I've always been careful in my sexual practices and choosing my partners. I contracted it while practicing safe sex with somebody I trusted and man, this is one tough pill to swallow. I'm 30 years old and really starting to get to that point where I was feeling like I'm ready to settle down once I find the right person and blamo....this smacks me right in the face. I've been trying to tell myself that it's not the end of the world, it could be worse, and that life will still be good, but damn it's hard to accept.

Everything has been going so well for me. My career is really taking off, I'm making some good friends in a relatively new city, among other things and I've been trying to focus on that, but this is just so damn depressing. I absolutely hate the fact that I have this 'secret' now and that I'm eventually going to have to 'have the talk' with a girl that I care about. So many things have been going through my mind. I was at the Masters yesterday, which is something I've always wanted to do and I couldn't even enjoy it. At one point in time, I was alone and walking around the most beautiful and storied golf course in the world and tears just start streaking down my face. Needless to say, I'm really scared at how this will affect my future relationships. Sigh...

I'm doubly bothered by the fact that I acquired this while having protected sex. Not just the fact that I was practicing responsible sex and acquired the disease, but that if I acquired it that way, what keeps me from passing it on that way? I can't imagine giving this to someone after knowing the pain they would go through. From what I understand after reading this site is that roughly 10% of the time you are contagous. How can I date someone and tell them that they have a 1-in-10 chance of contracting this from me? What a horrible feeling.

I pray that in some way that this is a blessing in disguise and that it leads my life in a direction that has a positive outcome in one way or another, but right now it really is tough to imagine that. Hopefully, one day I'll be able to look back and see the silver lining.

I do want to thank those involved with starting, maintaining, and contributing to this website. It has really helped me to understand this disease and to know that I'm not alone (although I wish I was because I would never wish this on anyone). Hopefully, with time, I can become a contributing member as well, but right now I'm just going take for a while. So I thank you for giving. It really helps ease the pain...

dac

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How can I date someone and tell them that they have a 1-in-10 chance of contracting this from me?dac

There's a much better chance than 1-in-10 that they too already have hsv, and there's a 9-in-10 chance that they they aren't aware of it if they do have it. They could infect YOU with a different strain of hsv (or another std) and cause YOU more problems. Just keep this thing in perspective when comparing yourself to others. Most people who have hsv don't know they have it, and most people eventually get it. At least you know you have it (you are getting tested) and will act responsibly with the results. Character and integrity make a person, a disease doesn't.

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