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aina521

Hello everyone! I'm new to this forum, and I have some questions.

I was diagnosed with HSV-2 in October. I had a really ugly primary outbreak, and since then, I've been having constant outbreaks (I'm lucky if I get a break of a day in between outbreaks). I assumed I got it from my boyfriend because I was monogamous with him for about 2 months before I was diagnosed. He recently got tested and his test came back negative.

How is this possible? If I didn't get it from him, where could I have gotten it from? Is it possible to have a primary outbreak long after you contract the infection? I know it can present asymptomatically in some people, but it has been far from asymptomatic for me. I assumed if you have a primary outbreak, it means you just caught it. Is there any way of finding out how long you've had the infection?

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victor

Did you actually see his test results? HSV blood tests miss infection 1 out of every 10 or 10% of the time, so it's possible your partner got a false negative. You should ask him to get tested again. If you didn't get it from him then you obviously got it from another partner. It's possible to have a primary OB long after contracting the HSV-2, but rather unlikely. Most symptoms appear within 2-20 days of exposure and these symptoms can easily be mistaken for bug bites, ingrown hairs, friction burns, etc. Most people do get these signs, but mistake them for something else, which is why 80% of those with herpes don't know they have it since it ranges in severity from person-to-person. The only way to find out when you caught the infection would be to get a blood test immediately at the onset of symptoms and then get tested 6-7 weeks later. During a primary OB your body has no antibodies to fight off the virus since the virus is new to the body, and because of this, you will test negative if this truly a primary outbreak. I advise taking a blood test ASAP. If it comes back negative then take a blood test at 6-7 weeks (since you're already infected) and it'll likely be positive. Other than that, there's no way to know.

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aina521

I mean I know for sure that I have it. I have outbreaks all the time. He got tested recently, months after I had my first outbreak. I imagine if he has it, he's had it for a while, so would it be likely for him to have a false negative?

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Number7
I mean I know for sure that I have it. I have outbreaks all the time. He got tested recently, months after I had my first outbreak. I imagine if he has it, he's had it for a while, so would it be likely for him to have a false negative?

How long was it from the last time you had sex w/him was it til you noticed the outbreak?

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mrm

It is definitely possible you got this a long time ago and just now started having symptoms. The reason could be that something has caused your immune system to take a dip, hence the symptoms. The best thing to do is talk to your doctor and get a physical and make sure you are healthy otherwise.

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Number7
A bit over a week.

That falls within the time frame ---Have you blood tested to see if you have hsv1 also?

Not having hsv1 then acquiring hsv2, usally presents with a very noticeable outbreak - fever, swollen lymph nodes, blisters on "both" sides of the labia.....were these your symptoms? Usually you will have an o/b followed by another o/b a little shorter in duration

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aina521

I tested negative for HSV-1. And yes, those were my symptoms. I had tons of very painful, weeping blisters, everywhere. They lasted a month. When they finally went away (after a course of acyclovir), a new outbreak started the very next day. It's been the same since then. An outbreak happens, it goes away, and less than a day later, I have another one. Sometimes they don't last too long. I've been using tea tree oil and it really helps. Right now, I'm having a really bad outbreak, almost as bad as the primary outbreak.

I'm just really worried about how I got it if he tested negative. The timing just seems like there's no way I could have gotten it from anyone but him.

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mrm

There are other ways you can get it but its just much more rare and you may never figure it out. Its probably better to focus on getting better and maybe have him test one more time just for peace of mind.

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mrm

Also, it wouldn't hurt for both of you to go to the doctor together and agree to have it all out in the open and deal with the results together.

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mrm

I meant to ask if you had it swabed? You wouldn't be the first person to be mis diagnosed from a blood test. You could have had the hsv for a long time and never had symptoms and these other symptoms could be something different. You flat out wont know if its not swabed.

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aina521

Yeah, I had it swabbed. I was having an active breakout when I went to the doctor. What are the other ways of getting it?

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mrm

Thats good you got it swabbed. Now you just have to get it under control. I dont remember from the previous posts but did you try suppressive therapy yet? If not you should definitely talk to your doctor and try it. If your boyfriend still tests negative then you may never figure it out. It probably isn't worth trying to go beyond him. If he recently got it and gave it to you then he may not have built up enough antibodies yet to test positive for it. The other ways are so rare that Id rather not list them as it would cause unnecessary fear.

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Hello everyone! I'm new to this forum, and I have some questions.

I was diagnosed with HSV-2 in October. I had a really ugly primary outbreak, and since then, I've been having constant outbreaks (I'm lucky if I get a break of a day in between outbreaks). I assumed I got it from my boyfriend because I was monogamous with him for about 2 months before I was diagnosed. He recently got tested and his test came back negative.

How is this possible? If I didn't get it from him, where could I have gotten it from? Is it possible to have a primary outbreak long after you contract the infection? I know it can present asymptomatically in some people, but it has been far from asymptomatic for me. I assumed if you have a primary outbreak, it means you just caught it. Is there any way of finding out how long you've had the infection?

Hey ania, welcome. I have ghsv2 for 24 years and my h stayed dormant for 23 years, I just had 2nd outbreak ever just about a year ago. If you have ever had any previous sex partners, they could have been Asymptomatic, you could have gotten it that way and just didn't have a noticeable outbreak back then. I'm ghsv2 , on antivirals and have only had two ob's ever. My husband is non h man for the past 22 yrs of our marriage. Just relax and please know you can live a very normal life. Take care honey. Truly, Ace :)

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Number7
I tested negative for HSV-1. And yes, those were my symptoms. I had tons of very painful, weeping blisters, everywhere. They lasted a month. When they finally went away (after a course of acyclovir), a new outbreak started the very next day. It's been the same since then. An outbreak happens, it goes away, and less than a day later, I have another one. Sometimes they don't last too long. I've been using tea tree oil and it really helps. Right now, I'm having a really bad outbreak, almost as bad as the primary outbreak.

I'm just really worried about how I got it if he tested negative. The timing just seems like there's no way I could have gotten it from anyone but him.

Same thing happened to me. He kept testing negative. I finally went to my previous partners---all negative. (For certain people) The current testing is not as accurate as they claim. Did he get the same "type" of testing that you did?

From the description of your symptoms, it sounds like this is a true, initial outbreak. I got a new outbreak right after the first one also and had all of the symptoms of an initial o/b.

I finally don't have as many o/b's (after 3 yrs).

How long had you been with your boyfriend before your first o/b?

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