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I'm a 21 year old who recieved Herpes from my sons father. We aren't together and doesn't help support my son. He never told me about this virus, I only found out when I got one break out. I've been taking the medication since I found out. I've had about three total break outs. I've tried dating and told the guys before we slept together I was infected with the virus. They all would freak out and think of me totally different. This is just an awful thing to have to deal with. I feel as if I'm going to be alone forever.

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Number7
I'm a 21 year old who recieved Herpes from my sons father. We aren't together and doesn't help support my son. He never told me about this virus, I only found out when I got one break out. I've been taking the medication since I found out. I've had about three total break outs. I've tried dating and told the guys before we slept together I was infected with the virus. They all would freak out and think of me totally different. This is just an awful thing to have to deal with. I feel as if I'm going to be alone forever.

When you meet the "right" guy you will not have to worry about this. It sounds like the guys you've dated thus far don't want relationships---just sex.

In the meantime educate yourself about the virus so that you will be more informed about transmission, etc. and can educate the right partner. The transmission rate is much higher with men to women vs women to men.

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IN4004

Hey, well look, you don't have to face it alone anymore. Your fellow "herpsters"(JB uses that a lot) will be here to support you, I've only been here for a week or so and everyone has helped me so much. Join in the chat room to talk to us all, we will help you as much as possible.

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DreamingLeo

kawalsh, I have had the same problem with guys that I have told about HSV as well. They haven't reacted well and that has been incredibly difficult for me, even if I knew a relationship might not work out with them. It's simply the fact that a person feels like no one is ever going to accept or love them, but that is far from the truth!! Like Number7 said, when you meet the "right" one, it won't matter as long as you are honest and upfront with everything you know and are feeling. Being informed is also a huge help in giving you confidence in talking about it, as I've found. The anticipation of telling a guy is much worse than the actual action because you are doing the right thing!

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I'm a 21 year old who recieved Herpes from my sons father. We aren't together and doesn't help support my son. He never told me about this virus, I only found out when I got one break out. I've been taking the medication since I found out. I've had about three total break outs. I've tried dating and told the guys before we slept together I was infected with the virus. They all would freak out and think of me totally different. This is just an awful thing to have to deal with. I feel as if I'm going to be alone forever.

HSV is hard to deal with, but trust me when I say it DOES get better in time. I too am a mother and have had it for a couple yrs now and I still get outbreaks, but I am coping well. I've learned that telling people can be difficult, but it's important to make sure the relationship established between you and the other person is pretty good. Some people do freak out because they are unaware of the virus, but there are people who are very understanding about it as well. Don't be discouraged and stay confident! I've only been a member of this site for a day and I've found it to be very helpful and informative. Good luck! :)

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