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the worst thing happened. my sister (who doesn't know i have H) and her boyfriend set me up on a date with a great guy. i keep thinking, "why couldn't i have met him last year". i don't know what to do. my instinct is to push him away. i like him too much and i'm afraid that when i tell him i'm going to hurt him and he's going to reject me. and i'm also afraid that my sister my her boyfriend would find out also.i like this guy, but i don't want to be rejected. i don't know what to do.

any advice?

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The best advice I can give u is to TAKE THINGS SLOW. Feel him out..a trick my friend not me uses is to bring up STDS and inch in herpes..she doesnt tell the person she.has it..she wants a reaction before putting herself out there.

I perfer to be more straightfoward BUT ONLY AFTER I ESTABLISH A LEVEL OF TRUST.

GOOD LUCK and remember u deserve LOVE .

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I agree with ICherri- take it slow! Allow him to feel an intimate emotional connection to you before getting into the intimate sexual realm. Establishing that friendship will give you a stronger bond that can be bigger than the HSV issue. It will also make him protective of the information once you tell him (and your sister won't find out). Give yourself this chance!

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